Best Anal Intercourse Position

[Handyman]

My wife and I have recenty graduated to full annal intercourse and do enjoy it but now a problem has developed. We started by my wife kneeling on hands and knees with me entering her from behind. This works really well as I am able to spread her cheeks with my hands and, if she bears down, I can enter her with ease. I thought it was perfect.

Now she is telling me that she does not like this position and doesn't want to do it anymore. She says it lacks intimacy and degrades her as a person. She says it feel less like being loved and more like just being fucked.

My questions are:
What is your favourite position for anal intercourse?
What other positions work for you?

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by Handyman

My wife and I have recenty graduated to full annal intercourse and do enjoy it but now a problem has developed. We started by my wife kneeling on hands and knees with me entering her from behind. This works really well as I am able to spread her cheeks with my hands and, if she bears down, I can enter her with ease. I thought it was perfect.

Now she is telling me that she does not like this position and doesn't want to do it anymore. She says it lacks intimacy and degrades her as a person. She says it feel less like being loved and more like just being fucked.

My questions are:
What is your favourite position for anal intercourse?
What other positions work for you?

Well I love being on all fours,but sometimes it's best when she sits on you so she is in control..This way you are both face to face,you can kiss,caress her boobs and have eye contact,which is more intimate and tell her you love her,just don't bang away on her ass...of course there are times when we get so hot,already had an orgasm,get really worked up and just want to fuck...Being fucked in the ass should not be degrading if she gets pleasure from it and agrees to it...Maybe getting her so worked up,after an orgasm or two and play with that bum until she grabs your cock and guides where she wants it,giving her control she won't have this feeling...My h/b knows when I want it as I reach for the lube and a condom and get on all fours....

[Budde]

If you have vaginal sex with your wife doggy style does she find that degrading as well? I used to have a g/f who liked anal on her back as well as doggy style. I would place her legs over my shoulders and prop her a pillow under the small of her back giving me access to her ass. It didn't seem like a very comfortable position to me but she liked it. You might want to look into Liberator Shapes. There foam pillows in various shapes wedges and ramps etc. designed for a multitude of sexual positions. Check out Ann's Sex Toys Reviews. I did before we bought them and highly recommend them.

[t-baby]

When my bf and I do anal, I always lay down on my stomach and he lays right on top of me. To me that seems a little more intimate than doggie style.

[Handyman]

Loveral responded suggesting I let my wife sit on me leaving her in control, I recoiled at that advice as that would make me submissive, making myself available for my wife's use. I am not a Sub. Then I realized that is probably what my wife is telling me – she too is not a Sub, available solely for my pleasure.

They say that opposites attract but, perhaps, we are too similar to belong together. We are both independent people and our relationship is built on mutual respect and our sexual relationship is for our mutual pleasure.

I so much appreciate Loveral's advice as it opened an avenue of discussion with my wife that we had not previously had. Last Saturday we were on a two hour road trip and I opened the discussion of our living, loving and sexual relationship. We both acknowledged our preference for being in charge and our reluctance to be subordinated. We make exceptions when one of us wants to try something new or if she needs to go on top to reach an orgasm but we both like these to be exceptions rather than regular occurrences. I guess that makes us so much different than the Dom's and Subs I read about on this site.

In our discussion we acknowledged that we both like anal intercourse and we would both like to find a position in which neither of us feels like we are being used by the other person. Sunday morning is our favourite bonding time and we agreed to make this problem our “Sunday project”. Here's what happened:

Saturday night we put our tube of lube into a sock and put it into bed with us. That's a common practice of ours as we like it warmed to body temperature which, by morning, it is. In the morning my wife got up and had her regular bowel movement and came back to bed. Meantime I got up, had my morning pee and took 25 mg of Viagra. (Don't knock it if you haven't tried it). Without Viagra my quality erection is good for about 30 minutes and then I either need to ejaculate or I will lose it. Actually, either way I will lose it in about 30 minutes. With Viagra I'm good for at least an hour and still going strong.

The position we decided to try was the missionary, but lying on our sides with her legs around my waist. We had agreed we were going to do anal so I first injected lube into her rectum using a tool that screws on the top of our squeeze tube of lube and which is about 2 ½ inches long, perfect for inserting into dark places. We found this item in a sex shop, (packaged together with a tube of lube) in Europe (Germany I think) and it is very useful. I haven’t seen it offered or advertised anywhere else.

In this side by side, facing, position we leaned our upper bodies apart to about a 90 degree angle. That allowed me to have my penis in a position where I could park it on her labia like a wiener in a hot dog bun with the most sensitive part (just under the head) resting on her clitoris. In this position we found that we could both do enough movement to control the action. It felt great but, even greater when I lubed my penis and then, through mutual movement, we could stroke from her tail bone to her clitoris in long sensational strokes. It didn't take long before she had a violent orgasm and another one soon after when I slipped my penis into her vagina,. Then, after a short rest to recover, we were continuing the stimulation when she grabbed my cock and directed it toward her anus. Urgent! No time to put on a condom.

Remembering that the goal was anal sex, we backed a bit further apart and I entered her well lubed ass with little difficulty. First a few short, easy strokes to get her accustomed but she soon started pushing me into full depth and, in less than a minute, (how do you count time?) her hand went furiously to her clit and she exploded again. Sorry! I couldn't hold back and I shot 5 or 6 strong ropes of cum into her bum.

We lay there, just about exhausted. We hugged and kissed and told each other of our great love. I asked her if she wanted to show me a cream pie but she said “no, perhaps next time”. I can hardly wait.

At breakfast we held a post mortem and I commented that “if we could get rid of our hang-ups and learn to accept power exchanges with each other there would be no limit to our sexual pleasure". She said “well, what is it that you want to do?”. I flippantly said, “I want to tie you up and spank your ass”. to which she added “or die trying”. So I asked her what her fantasies are? She is not able to talk about them so I explained that if she wants to be in charge, she needs to have a plan and to put it into action. Otherwise, how do I know what to do to her or for her. I’m trying to get her to understand that people who don’t have a plan of their own have to accept becoming part of someone else’s plan so, if she does have a plan she needs to initiate it rather than just criticize my plan.

Meantime, we did have a fantastic experience with anal and we did learn a lot about ourselves and each other. We may refine our technique as we go along but I think we have found an anal sex position that works for us.

Thank you all for your responses.

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by Handyman

Loveral responded suggesting I let my wife sit on me leaving her in control, I recoiled at that advice as that would make me submissive, making myself available for my wife's use. I am not a Sub. Then I realized that is probably what my wife is telling me – she too is not a Sub, available solely for my pleasure.

They say that opposites attract but, perhaps, we are too similar to belong together. We are both independent people and our relationship is built on mutual respect and our sexual relationship is for our mutual pleasure.

I so much appreciate Loveral's advice as it opened an avenue of discussion with my wife that we had not previously had. Last Saturday we were on a two hour road trip and I opened the discussion of our living, loving and sexual relationship. We both acknowledged our preference for being in charge and our reluctance to be subordinated. We make exceptions when one of us wants to try something new or if she needs to go on top to reach an orgasm but we both like these to be exceptions rather than regular occurrences. I guess that makes us so much different than the Dom's and Subs I read about on this site.

In our discussion we acknowledged that we both like anal intercourse and we would both like to find a position in which neither of us feels like we are being used by the other person. Sunday morning is our favourite bonding time and we agreed to make this problem our “Sunday project”. Here's what happened:

Saturday night we put our tube of lube into a sock and put it into bed with us. That's a common practice of ours as we like it warmed to body temperature which, by morning, it is. In the morning my wife got up and had her regular bowel movement and came back to bed. Meantime I got up, had my morning pee and took 25 mg of Viagra. (Don't knock it if you haven't tried it). Without Viagra my quality erection is good for about 30 minutes and then I either need to ejaculate or I will lose it. Actually, either way I will lose it in about 30 minutes. With Viagra I'm good for at least an hour and still going strong.

The position we decided to try was the missionary, but lying on our sides with her legs around my waist. We had agreed we were going to do anal so I first injected lube into her rectum using a tool that screws on the top of our squeeze tube of lube and which is about 2 ½ inches long, perfect for inserting into dark places. We found this item in a sex shop, (packaged together with a tube of lube) in Europe (Germany I think) and it is very useful. I haven’t seen it offered or advertised anywhere else.

In this side by side, facing, position we leaned our upper bodies apart to about a 90 degree angle. That allowed me to have my penis in a position where I could park it on her labia like a wiener in a hot dog bun with the most sensitive part (just under the head) resting on her clitoris. In this position we found that we could both do enough movement to control the action. It felt great but, even greater when I lubed my penis and then, through mutual movement, we could stroke from her tail bone to her clitoris in long sensational strokes. It didn't take long before she had a violent orgasm and another one soon after when I slipped my penis into her vagina,. Then, after a short rest to recover, we were continuing the stimulation when she grabbed my cock and directed it toward her anus. Urgent! No time to put on a condom.

Remembering that the goal was anal sex, we backed a bit further apart and I entered her well lubed ass with little difficulty. First a few short, easy strokes to get her accustomed but she soon started pushing me into full depth and, in less than a minute, (how do you count time?) her hand went furiously to her clit and she exploded again. Sorry! I couldn't hold back and I shot 5 or 6 strong ropes of cum into her bum.

We lay there, just about exhausted. We hugged and kissed and told each other of our great love. I asked her if she wanted to show me a cream pie but she said “no, perhaps next time”. I can hardly wait.

At breakfast we held a post mortem and I commented that “if we could get rid of our hang-ups and learn to accept power exchanges with each other there would be no limit to our sexual pleasure". She said “well, what is it that you want to do?”. I flippantly said, “I want to tie you up and spank your ass”. to which she added “or die trying”. So I asked her what her fantasies are? She is not able to talk about them so I explained that if she wants to be in charge, she needs to have a plan and to put it into action. Otherwise, how do I know what to do to her or for her. I’m trying to get her to understand that people who don’t have a plan of their own have to accept becoming part of someone else’s plan so, if she does have a plan she needs to initiate it rather than just criticize my plan.

Meantime, we did have a fantastic experience with anal and we did learn a lot about ourselves and each other. We may refine our technique as we go along but I think we have found an anal sex position that works for us.

Thank you all for your responses.

I'm glad you found a position that works for you both and you enjoyed your experience..As for subs/doms many people just role play and some like to switch,which I still consider that role playing.You can have lots of fun with that and don't have to enter the real world of bdsm.What you two have going seems to work just fine,so go with it.I know my life style is not for most,but it's who I am and what I prefer.If my h/b didn't agree with being my dom I would still want/need spankings.It's something I love????....Just Enjoy!