Masturbation and sex are different things to many women. When I masturbate, it isn't because I want to have sex, or because I miss my boyfriend or whatever. It's because I want to do something very intimate and personal on my own. Sex with my boyfriend is wonderful, but it isn't at all the same thing.
I'm not going to make any judgements on how you and your partner live your lives, but is the idea of scheduling your sexual encounters like that working for you? I can't imagine it feels very sexy or romantic to know that you MUST have sex twice a week, and it MUST happen on a wednesday, etc.
Have you talked to your wife about why she doesn't feel like having sex very often? Have you asked if there's anything you can do to make it more sensual or romantic for her? Have you tried being more spontaneous or affectionate?
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