How Nasty

[mocka]

This is a question for those of us who are adults and know that your parents and grandparents are sill very sexualy active. My mom dates frequently and have sevral safe sexual relationships. My father is a great big hoe, he gets around. Now being that My parents split when I was young I never had to expereince walking in on them (Thank God) But I have and more times than I care to remember walked in on my father and grandparents.

My question is have you walked in on a relative 50+ years old and what was your reaction?

Well, sex is part of life, so I don't really mind. I don't go grab some popcorn and watch till the end. But it is what happens between two people, and if they can still do it when they are 50+, more power to them.

[Budde]

Geese Louise! just the thought of any of my older relative having sex is a mental image I dont need running around inside my head.

I'll be in therapy if anyone needs me........

Back a few years ago I was gettin ready to go to school one mornin and walked past my parents bedroom door which was sorta cracked open cuz they NEVER fully close it and really all I saw was my dad's naked bum. So I just *assume* what was happening. (my dad does not sleep nude or anything). That was before they were 50. I dunno didn't really bother me. I know that is the reason why I am even in existence, so....it's just normal. I guess I did kinda think about it a sec though because I had not for the first 15 years of my life seen or heard them have sex so I didn't know if they ever did, which honestly concerns me more than them having it, so....yeah....that's my experience.

[mocka]

Well its not much the fact that its 2 older people having sex Its just the fact that its two family mebers that seem just not able to do it no more like my grandparents. My grandma always complaining about "aurtor" and her back and knees killing her, and my grandpa is always suffering from asmha attacks, I just think wow they still are doing it, and couldn't it kill them cause they are always in pain. And they always wana do it when I am visiting

What i am gonna write about is an extension of this topic.
It happened when our daughter was just about two yrs old. We
were in our bed watching the telly i think when our daughter suddely leaned over, her face above my face and kissed me full on the lips. I was stunned and so was my wife becuase thats EXACTLY the way i used to kiss my wife. There were occasions when we thought our daughter was still a baby and did mess around inn bed while we THOUGHT she was asleep. It appears she did watch us and the memories got retained. I felt rotten ( u know the stuff-- incest etc etc flooded my brain ) and my wife was upset too .
Luckily the incident was one and only of its kind and our fears that our daughter may ask us questions , when she is still too young, never really happened.
After that one incident, we never never got intimate (sexually) in front of kids and without taking care to have the doors shut and bolted. We were very careful about making loud noises too.

Well, all through junior high and highschool, my room was directly beneath my parent's bedroom. Never walked in on them, but there was no insulation between the floor of their room and the ceiling of mine. Consequently, I heard every noise, every time.

Well into heir fourties, my parents are randier than a teenager in a dance club.

I've never been grossed out. I've always been of the idea that one day I want a marriage like theirs. They're sickeningly in love, nauseatingly affectionate, and they'll be like that forever.

I'm proud of my parents for their ability to get so turned on by each other they have to take a "break" while filing income taxes.

[CoJon]

Originally Posted by justtobesure

I'm proud of my parents for their ability to get so turned on by each other they have to take a "break" while filing income taxes.

That is a cute quote, j2bs.

I read the posts to this thread backwards, from the most recent to the very first--what originally intrigued me was the title, "How nasty"--and I just wanted to offer my two cents.

Actually, I can't honestly say I've ever walked in on a middle-aged or elderly couple having sex, but after many years of caring for elderly individuals who have become like parents, grandparents (and sometimes much like very big, very long-lived children) to me to me, I've developed a profound and loyal respect for the elder generation. And like you, justtobesure, I don't think I've ever been grossed out by (at least) the notion of "old people" having sex. Old is relative, anyway. Yes, of course, you get a little more wrinkled and you sag a little more as each year passes (unless you have a personal surgeon, or Botox). But we start out as funny-looking--yes, cute, but still funny looking--little creatures as we grow from babyhood into maturity, and we eventually age beyond adulthood into even funnier-looking creatures that are not nearly as cute--or comfortable?--to look at as babies are.

And whenever we are engaging in sex, at any age, we look a little funny doing it anyway, so what is there to be disgusted about? Is it the unfamiliar? Is it the fear of looking like that yourself some day?

In the mind's eye, beauty transforms as we age; it doesn't turn to ugliness. Rather, it is like a lit candle whose flame changes colors as it burns, until eventually it just burns itself out. The wax of the candle melts with time, and the flame may turn an odd, unfamiliar color, but in actuality the most difficult thing to accept is not the flame's unusual color, but the awareness that it indicates the approaching end of its existence. "Younger flames" should not be revolted, but learn how bright the life of each one of them can be, even in its later stages.