Sex drive at 35 plus??

[Budde]

Well I would like to know who these so called experts are that keep saying that when your in your 40's etc. that your sex drive goes down. BULL! the truth of the matter is well at least in our case. My wife and I are both in our 40's and we have a killer sex drive. The only problem is our body's aren't cooperating......... Trust me I think about sex all the time and the drive is the same if not more so then when I was 19 or 19. Honestly a lot more becasue I get laid a lot more now then back then.........lol It's jsut a matter of you just can't physically do the things now that you did back then. You know all those sayings you hear.
"Why is youth wasted on the young"
"If I knew then what I know now" etc. etc. they were all made up by some 40 something year old guy with a perpetual hard on and a high level of frustration...........

So my advice to you is, your a 24 year old man well you should be fucking like a rabbit and nothing less. Don't worry about your 40's yet.

It's probably true as a general proposition that men's drive goes down and women's goes up as they get older but that says nothing about specific individuals. My sex drive is way strionger than the guys I work with most of whom are in the twenties or thirties. I'm just a horny old bastard.

[princesa]

Unfortunately, it was true in my case. When I hit the mid-30s, my sex drive went thru the roof. Conversely, my ex, who was about 4 years older than me, got to the point where he was totally disinterested. However, we had other issues in our relationship that complicated the matter.

I think if you have a healthy relationship where both partners want to keep things fresh and their sex life active - it does take some conscious effort - the difference in sex drives isn't a huge deal. In fact, most of the guys I talked to about my problem said their wives' drives were much lower than theirs, so sometimes that female surge in the 30s is actually very welcome. Several of them selflessly volunteered to help me out. LOL

Well I have to agree!

Okay, I am in a new relationship and the sex is the best I have ever known to date.

For background, I had the most acrimonious last five years and I can lament the ten years before that.

So at the moment I have found someone who gives me more pleasure than I can remember - I am having multiple orgasms for the first time ever! (my ex would last for 5-10 minutes max and then roll over and go to sleep, regardless). This guy goes on and on and I worry I can't keep up with him!!!

Trust me, sex drives can be revived in the 35 plus, given the right stimulation. It is sexy. It is fun. I have discovered I am a new woman. I am constantly aroused.

We all know sex drives can go up and down. It all depends on how intense the relationship might be.

I don't know how others feel, but being that much older, I find sex so much easier. The exploration, the confidence, being able to vocalise what I need and how I feel; being able to ask him what he wants. It is so good. Wish I had the confidence 20 years ago!!

So, in a nut shell, allbeit an old one by now, yes a sex life after 35 definitely exists and can be absolutely as brilliant and vigorous as if you were 20!!

[Cherry]

Originally posted by Mistress Mouse
Thats why you get yourself a sweet toyboy like I did our sex drives match perfectly. He is many years my junior and it is great. We are made for each other.

Or a girlfriend of a similar age who likes to have a toy of her own.

Who cares!?
Being only a slip of a girl (23) even i know not to take too much notice of sexual 'experts.' Bah humbug.
My boyf is a LOT older than me and i have managed to get him going for gold most nights! He he.

It is down to who you are, life experiences etc.

I do believe though, that women become more sexual as they get older because of the fact that when they are young they constantly face pressure from society to be 'youthful and pretty (look at the media!) - as a woman gets older she usually becomes wiser and most become comfortable with her body etc

Or am i talking a load of doggy poop? As i said i am young......

I had an excellent sex drive in my youth.....but tapered off to a pleasant hum throughout my 20's.

In my early 30's it came back with a vengeance, I am 38 now and my sex drive is nearly as good as when I was 15 and I am more relaxed about sex, I have more experience and I don't have any of those youthful hangups.

The big change for me was going off of birth control pills, I have some *slight* hormonal irregularities and I was on BC pills and some other stuff to help regulate it since my early 20's.

My docs NEVER said it could affect my sex drive, and said it could not be responsible for my migraines which had developed during the same time period.

WRONG. Migraines gone, and sex drive is back to "normal", and I cum alot easier now, like I did in the beginning.

Thought I would share this, my situation may be unique but maybe not.

Cheers! Pandora