What makes one a Sex God?

[Cherry]

Sex God (or Godess) status, to me, has nothing to do with how many orgasms you are capable of giving your partner. It's got more to do with taking the time to satisfy your partner emotionally, as well as sexually. For me, I'm more deeply satisfied if my emotional needs are met. Seriously, if I had to choose between "great sex and no emotional satisfaction" and "dull sex and total emotional satisfaction", I'd give up great sex and stick with my emotional needs.

Do I condier myself a sex godess? Maybe. But that's only because I know that I satisfy my partner emotionally as well as sexually. Do I take pride in knowing that I satisfy her, sexually? Of course I do. But I also take pride in knowing that I make her happy by giving her what she craves in our relationship. I'm there to hold her when she cries. I'm there to laugh with her when she finds something funny. I'm there to listen when she's frustrated with work or her familly. I'm there to rub her feet when she's tired and sore. I'm there to take care of her when she's sick. Those things make me just as proud as knowing I can make her scream like a girl when nobody else could. But it's all tied into me showing her how I feel about her. It's all just me expressing my love for this wonderful person I happened to stumble across, purly by chance.

[Tiadrah]

I would have to agree in a way with Cherry. I have had my share of great sex with no strings attatched and tried different things and it was lots of fun. But what truely got me there was when I was in a serious relationship and my feelings were deeply involved that is when I was the most satisfied. Because not only am I doing new things and exploring my sexuality but I am helping him explore his too and the connection that is there is what throws me over the edge. When I have been with other men it was fun and I have had orgasms but no man has come even close to giving me the sensations as I did with my ex and I never had an orgasm with him. And to me he was a total sex god. I was comfortable with him and felt safe to do anything and just be myself and that alone opens things up and boosts him above anyone else. Here is for hoping that I find that again since it was five years ago.

Originally posted by Ann

So I ask...What kinds of qualities, traits, etc. makes a person able to rise to the status of Sex God?

can you define what it is first?

[Ann Andriani]

Originally posted by lah
can you define what it is first?

It's whatever you think it is...that's why I'm asking what traits would make you think that or say that or describe someone as that. How would you describe it? There is no actual definition to give because you make it and that's what I'm asking.

Ann

[Twstychik]

I'd have to say that one of the thing I would consider is confidence & willingness to do what ever (with in your comfort) that you can to please both involved.

Women are all sex goddesses, it's part of being a women and I bow to them all.

For men it takes a special quality that is sort of intangible, I would say the term is reserved for a very small group and sadly I am not one of them, but I'm starting to think Brad Pitt is.

To me a sex god or godess is confidence in yourself and also in your partner and most important being comfortable with each other.

[Twstychik]

Timsims, On behalf of women everywhere... I'm flattered! :p Oh, and Brad Pitt may be a sex god in some womens' fantisies... but there's only one way to earn that title for real!

My bf is a Sex God to me for many reasons.

He is a very attentive and giving lover. He is confident and makes sex playful and fun. He is adventurous and always willing to try new things and guide me through things I'm uncertain about, but at the same time I absolutely trust him to know my limits. We have a great emotional connection as well which I agree is very important to me.

It's so different for everyone depending on their needs I think. I just know he fulfills everything I could ever want in a partner and he is a god in my eyes.

To me a 'sex god' , I hate to use that term exactly but someone who is a great lover in other words, is someone who GIVES, who is attentive to the needs of their partner, and in doing so creates an atmosphere of mutual satisfaction and the desire in their partner to be all that they can be as well. A sex god is not someone who lasts for a long time, has had a lot of 'experience', or even someone who knows how to give orgasms. A sex god is someone who cares enough to learn their partner and wants to satisfy them and make them feel cherished and sexy. This is not something I have encountered yet but I believe its out there, and its always been my fantasy and my goal.