What am I missing out on?

Well I cannot speak for others, but for me it the the love and passion aspect. Truely great sex is a mind game, and what better to intoxify the mind that true love.
GL
sleepless

[Budde]

Well first off welcome to the board. What you rmissing is the communication. Yes the communication is important between partners to find out what each other likes and dislikes. How to help he or she get the most out of their sexual potential if you will but in my o/p it's about sharing your experiences with each other. Now by this I don't mean stories of past lovers but hey if thats what floats your boat then go for it. What I mean is reliving te experience such as you know it really turned me on when you di this or did that or wow where did you learn to do that! Some times reliving the experience can almost be as much fun as when you first had it. So the next time you know what each other like and can make it an even better experience.

Also your correct in your assumption of it being much more then just two people with good sexual energy an or experience. It's the emotional connection more so then the physical connection that fuels the fires of passion. Your making love to or just fucking the brians out of the person you care the most for in the world. You are helping them experience the greatest sexual experiences they have ever had.

I think your on the right track as far as asking your hubbyt to try new things etc. but if he's not willing then yo have a monumental task in front of you. I once briefly dated a women who was getting divorced because her sex life was virtually non existant. She told me she had never had an orgasam and used to refer to her husband as minuteman. She said in all her years of marriage I believe it was over twenty all he ever would do is fuck her which lasted no longer then one minute or so and never attended to her needs. He told ehr she didn't have anything to complain about. Yeah I guess thats why she was fucking me a few weeks after she was seperated. Not once did he ever ask her what she liked or what she wanted never mind being concerned about her having an orgasam. So needless to say her marriage to quote her was doomed long before she had ever seperated from him.

Try sitting down with im and having a heart to heart talk and tell him your not feeling what you think you should and also why doesn't he want to try new things with you?

Good Luck...

[oldkinky]

Take a look at my post 60 year old kinky sex details for some ideas of how we have fun after 42 years of marriage.

[paphia]

I don't thin it's a "magic" ingredient but I suppose for some it can definitely be elusive.

You have to be willing to say what you want before someone can give it to you. You also have to be willing to say when something is not okay. Whether that is a sexual act or a lack of trying on your partner's part, you have to be able to say "no we're not going to have it that way." So when I first became intimate with my husband, I showed him what I liked, and he showed me. Then we had (and still have) the pleasure of practicing on one another. It gets better and better. We enjoy pleasing the other, and we enjoy the pleasure we receive. We talk openly about what we like, and we don't feel bad admitting there was something we didn't like. It helps that we are deeply in love and strongly committed to having a happy and joy-filled life together and we are looking for ways to enjoy our time together on all levels, not just sexually.

Start truly loving yourself and seeking ways to please yourself and be happy in your own life no matter who else is there, and you will naturally attract those who want similar thing for themselves. Good luck to you and don't give up!