Is This My Crisis ?

[Chinball_Wizard]

I was surprised to see that someone posted to this thread after so long. I'd just like to say that things worked out prety well, all things considered. It was interesting for me to see some of the same relationship issues arise, that I had when I was in college. Of-course I now have a better perspective on them and can see how poorly I handled them when I was younger. Youth truely is wasted on the young. We carried on our "taboo relationship" for several months but when Danny came home for the summer, it quickly became obvious that I couldn't make the rounds of parties, etc. that college kids have. Not that I wanted to. I encouraged him to go and not to feel bad about it.
We didn't end overnight, but we did end. No tears, no regrets. Well maybe a few but I was also pleased with myself as well. I can honestly say that it was the best relationship I've ever had with a man. We've seen each other a few times since at social gatherings. There was a little awkwardness the first time. Especially since he had a date, but it faded fast.
Would I do it again? I don't know. I would be taking a big chance on ruining a wonderful memory.
I'd like to thank everyone who gave their opinion and their advice. I think I probably knew all along what I was going to do but was looking for validation. Again, thanks. Chinball

[Ann Andriani]

Glad to hear you're in a good place with this Chinball.

Ann

[XStripper777]

Well, I'm glad everything worked out for you. I really couldn't understand why so many others were so adamant about you not having a relationship with this man. Maybe when my son is in college, I might understand other's reactions better. But, the fact is you were both adults. It is unfortunate that you lost a friend out of it, but in reality, according to what you said, you didn't exactly lose her as a friend because you were having a relationship with her son, you lost her because you decided that it wasn't a good idea to go with her to his school. You lost her as a friend because you were trying so hard to be a good friend. Well, I guess that's what happens sometimes.

I'm glad that it didn't end too traumatically for you. It is always hard to end a relationship, even when it isn't a good one. I'm proud of you for going for it. I hope I'm as much of a "hot mama" as you are the rest of my life!

[XStripper777]

Awww... that's great, Ronzai! I assume you and your lover are very happy with one another. Just proof that age really is just a number. I think someone's maturity level means MUCH more than their actual age. I've met many young people who are more mature, and many older people who are very childish and immature. Age doesn't necessarily mean that someone is going to be a better or worse lover for you.

[Mark & Lin]

Lin is 9 years older than me, and 9 years younger than my mother. Now before you start thinking this is some sort of Oedipal thing, please understand that when I met Lin, I had no idea that was the case. I fell in love with the person, and her age didn't matter to me at all. I turn 47 in a couple of days, and I'll tell you now that I wouldn't change a thing. I'm no longer the 'young stud' she married, but I still manage to get the job done. Personally, I think Chin's adventures with Danny probably did both of them a world of good. He got a good education, and she got the benefits of a young man while having the knowledge she's accrued in her lifetime. Reading the beginning of this thread, I too was one of the 'don't do it' crowd. Once Danny's mother ended her friendship, however, all bets were off - unless it could be twisted to look like you did it to get back at her - but I digress...

Young guys? As a man who's married to a so-called 'older woman,' let me tell you that everything you've heard is true. The classic MILF does exist. Just do yourself a favor, and don't 'soil in your own nest,' if you get my drift. Keep your indiscretions away from home. Don't put her in the same position Danny put Chin into. I know that in this case everything worked out, but others might not be as lucky.

And Chin? Way to go, you! I'm very glad everything worked out well for you!

Mark