whats going on??

Me and my boyfriend have gotten really sexually active.(no intercourse. just oral and stuff..). Anyway, when he fingers me, he tends to force his fingers in me and go really really deep, then i start to bleed. This has happened twice now. What is going on?

[Chinball_Wizard]

My guess is that he has broken your hymen. He may not have opened you all the way though. So there may still be some of the membrane left. This could be the cause of the later bleedings. Remember, this is just my guess. Ask him to be less forcefull. At this point, perhaps you should consider actual intercourse. I believe the traditional mark of the virgin is gone.

[Cherry]

He could also be making tiny tears in the vaginal tissues. If he's "forcing" his fingers in, perhaps you're not wet enough, so the tissues can and DO tear easier. Whether or not you have actual intercourse is up to the two of you. But one way or the other, I'd ask him to be a bit more gentle while inserting his fingers.

[Hope]

I'm in complete agreement with the others that have responded already. Another thing to add here, ask him to clip his fingernails as well. Sometimes slightly longer fingernails may catch some things just right and cause little bitty cuts and whatnot on the inside.

[gypsy_rose_lee]

You also should use lube when he fingers you, whether it is a lot of spit or some K-Y. It will make it alot better.

Originally Posted by Chinball_Wizard

I believe the traditional mark of the virgin is gone.

That is totally not true. The definition of losing virginity, is penis in vagina thrusting. As a virgin, does masturbating using your fingers constitute a loss of virginity? I don't think so.

[Ann Andriani]

Originally Posted by Jem22

Me and my boyfriend have gotten really sexually active.(no intercourse. just oral and stuff..). Anyway, when he fingers me, he tends to force his fingers in me and go really really deep, then i start to bleed. This has happened twice now. What is going on?

Is the bleeding heavy or do you just spot or is it just a little brown? This may shed some more light.

However, all the thoughts expressed here are very good...in my opinion.

Ann

[Ann Andriani]

Originally Posted by hothippie

That is totally not true. The definition of losing virginity, is penis in vagina thrusting. As a virgin, does masturbating using your fingers constitute a loss of virginity? I don't think so.

Actually, the definition of virginity and losing one's virginity has been changing and is becoming a very personal thing.

Ann

[pervo]

Originally Posted by hothippie

That is totally not true. The definition of losing virginity, is penis in vagina thrusting. As a virgin, does masturbating using your fingers constitute a loss of virginity? I don't think so.

The comment wasn't that she HAD lost her virginity, but that the "mark" of virginity was gone. In other words, back in the day people thought that ALL virgins would bleed thier first time. Thus the mark of the virgin was bleeding. Since she may have had her hymen torn already the "mark" may be gone.....of course this is assuming that the hymen is the reason for the bleeding and that he tore it all and not just poked a few holes.




Jem22: First the off topic ? does your screen name come from an 80's cartoon? yes I used to watch it.

On topic. Tell you BF that if he can't play nice you'll take your toy and go home. Seriously, unless you told him you like it rough, what man would think it's ok to go ramming about in that area. He may not have the experience yet to know what a sensitive area that is, so tell him he's going too hard and that a softer touch gets you going alot more. Depending on his age he may be trying to explore, and he thinks deeper is better.....correct this misinformation asap. I know when I was younger and had my first encounters with fingering I wanted to feel around and get familiar with what was previously an area much like the city of atlantis.....I had heard of it, wanted to go there, had no idea how to get to it, and was amazed at what I found once I stumbled upon it.

Moral of the story, talk to him and let him know what works better. Not what he is doing WRONG (as this will put him on the defensive and he'll clam up) but rather what works better. Oh, and if you don't know what gets you going then you can't tell him.....so if you don't already, dive in and give yourself a whirl.

[greywolf7080]

Tell your lover to ease up. K-Y is a ton of fun. In the late 60's all men learned the cardinal rule of sex, never touch a dry vagina. Using Klube is not bad. It is great. Even when not needed.