How do I come out to my Wife and I want to give first blowjob

[liv789]

I do think that you need to tell your wife... if you don't, it's not fair to either of you. You deserve to be able to live your fantasies, and she deserves to know that you aren't really that into her. This isn't the dark ages anymore. You can live the life you want to live, you don't have to hide behind marriage and men's clothing. Be honest with your wife, and be honest with yourself. Good luck!

Yes, I agree.
I would want to know, if my SO wanted to suck a dick, rather than eat my pussy, ya` know what I`m sayin`?

[GirlyMan]

Hi and thank you to the three wonderful people who responded. I will try to answer the questions and thoughts that came up.

I used to sneak the panties from my Mother's drawer when I was little, from two of my step-sisters when I was a teen, no females to borrow from as an early adult, but I have worn my Wife's for the most part of our marriage. I am in my mid-thirties, but look ten years younger. My wife is in her thirties as well. My wife experimented with a female partner in college.

I have decided that I will give a guy head when I can meet one who is clean. I really want to do this. I need to, because I am female inside and it feels like it is the right thing to do for me.

I am not sure how to tell my wife. I want to stay married, because I love her. I may be female inside, but I am a bi female. My Wife does know that I have worn her panties and she was good with it at first, but then she felt strange with it.

I just want to be able to dress as a female and at least be able to pleasure guys orally. I do want to do anal as well, but I want to give head first. I will see where my female insides take me from there.

The thing is: I already know that I am a female.

Kisses and luv,
Mandy

This is a complex situation, but only for one reason: you are married.
If you were single, then, hey, do whatever floats your boat, but you have
committed yourself to this woman (and admit to wanting to stay with her)
so she needs to be informed about your intentions. Basically, what you're
proposing is an open relationship. She may or may not be cool with that, I dunno. If, after getting over the initial shock that you were born in the
wrong body (you may want to have a specialized counselor help you
out with telling her that), your wife agrees to let you explore then
best wishes and good luck. However, if she isn't cool with it then you're just
cheating--no matter what extenuating circumstances are involved.

Best wishes Mandy.

[GirlyMan]

I honestly can't hold back my desire anymore.

I am fully attracted to men as a woman.

I don't know how to handle this at this point.

I want a guy now too bad and I think it can't be just forgotten about because it feels too natural at this point.

I am a woman completely now in mind and body.

Mandy

So. You had mentioned that you have been wearing womens panties since you were six yrs. old.
As you were growing up, were you attracted to the males more than females?

I`m asking because you seem to feel so strongly about being a woman, trapped in a mans body. I was just curious to see if it has always been this strong, or has the feelings just grown through the years, or what?

If they have always been this strong, and you have been married 10 years, how in the hell did you hide this from your wife?
I would hope to shout that my husband would feel that he could talk to me about something this drastic, because I would be devasted if he told me later, that he gave another man a BJ.

Seriously, if your feelings are THAT strong, talk to her about it, otherwise, your just going to make yourself insane, but also take her feelings into consideration.

Wait where did he say his wife was bi? If she is, then you guys could definently find a couple. And also make sure she is into the whole gay/bisexual thing. Alright, you say you really want a man. Now I can see that, but you have to realize one thing. This is the same situation as a married man, who looks at one of his attractive co-workers and wants it. but he resists, can you resist it?

[GirlyMan]

I am going to try to answer all of the questions and give more on my situation:
I have worn panties since I was 6 years old. I was caught once by my brother while growing up. I used to sneak two of my step-sister's panties later on. I slowly evolved into panties and bra. I eventaully liked to wear more sexy night time female cloths. I want to wear all female clothes, from jeans to t-shirts, skirts of all lengths, blouses and dresses...all that a female wants and desires to feel female in on a daily basis.
My urges are not new.
I used to grow up seeing woman talk about having their period and I longed for mine. I wanted to have a period and a vagina rather than a cock and semen.
I felt like a female from the moment I first wore panties at six. I went on to emulate adult woman and teenage girls around me in much the same way that girls do with older females around them. What is sexy...what is not...etc.
What will turn on the boys or the boy I liked. I was into boys about the same time as all the girls I grew up with started to be into them. I realized when older that I did not want boys in what would be considered as 'gay', but rather as a young girl who is first beginning to feel attraction to boys. I did not want to be a drag queen or a cross-dresser...I wanted to be a female outright.
I was a female already at six and definately at the same time the girls around me started to like boys. I have probably been feminine my whole life.
I have and do wear panties, bra and other cute female cloths as an adult.
I would rather be able to go into the female section at clothes stores for the rest of my life rather than the men's section.
I want to meet a man. I want to have sex with a man. I want to go down on him. I want to feel him inside me.
My Wife was bi in college. I am sure that she may still have an attraction for other females.
To answer the last response:
No...I can't resist the want and need to touch someone I am attracted to anymore. The whole coworker example. I want too much to experience a male cock. Not in my ass, but in my mouth...in the vagina I should have had instead.
Luv,
Mandy
I'm not confused anymore...I am...
a Female
I always have been

[GirlyMan]

Originally Posted by browneyed girl

Well....I bet you feel better to get that off of your chest!
Now... I hope that you have discussed this, somewhat to your wife, who is female.

I don't know how to bring this up. How do I explain that I am not a man? How do I explain that I am a woman? How do I explain that I love her? How do I explain that...well yes...I want to suck cock as a woman? How do I explain that I want to have a man make love to me as a woman...with the vagina I should have had all my life?

How do I handle the rest of my life now? Now that I am a girl completely in my mind?

I'm not confused with accepting that I am a woman. I am confused with what I am to do now about it.

It does feel good to at least be able to state it in here.

Luvs,
Mandy
All of you here already know that I am a girl

[GirlyMan]

Originally Posted by browneyed girl

You just need to be as honest with her as you can.
If the roles were reversed, would you want her to keep something like this from you?

Should I ask her maybe about having a threesome (mfm)? I don't know how interested she would be.

I would hope that she would be interested and start by watching her go down on him. Then simply find the right moment and join in. Let her see that I like it at some point and let her guide me in the moment on whether to continue?

I pray that I am allowed to deepthroat

Luv,
Mandy
Female and desperate to taste cock for first time