I'm Going Cold Turkey

[Chinball_Wizard]

Well almost. My New Years resolution is to cut down on my frequency of masturbation. I'm not crazy enough to imagine I could quit. I wouldn't want to quit, even if I could. Right now I'm a once a day person. I have been that way for as long as I can remember. Lately though, it feels as if it's in control of me, instead of the other way around. It's not me making my pussy feel good. It's more like my pussy is making me make it feel good. By the way, so far i've gone 2 days, that's 2 FULL DAYS, w/o an orgasm I think I'm beginning to understand about guys being lead around by their dicks. I'm trying for a week. I'll feel really proud of myself if I can make it a week. Right now I don't know exactly what I'll give myself as a reward. Of course there will be at least one BIG ORGASM, but I mean something other than that to make it special.

PS Just so you understand, I haven't broken my resoultion if I have sex with someone. I plan to have ALOT of that this year.

Well, I'm happy for you for working on your self-discipline
and resolution--not an easy thing to do. I imagine cutting
down on masturbation would be just as hard as going on
a strict diet (which I know isn't easy). I'm curious as to why
you feel you need to cut down on it, though. You said it felt
like it was starting to control you--kudos for being able to
sense that and nip it in the bud if it's a true problem. But
have you always felt like it was too much, or is this feeling
a recent thing? Once a day doesn't seem like too much to me.
Just curious.

[Chinball_Wizard]

Well the fast has been broken. I couldn't even go three days. I just wanted to feel in control of some area of my life. I've gone longer than that without sleep, college, exam week, your know. It seems as though life is taking me for a ride and I don't have any say in where it's headed. My biological family is scattered, I have none of my own, I don't associate with anyone from work, and it seems as though I don't see any of my "friends" unless I make the contact. Now I find I can't even keep my own libido in reasonable check.

[CoJon]

C_W,

You're welcome. It was helpful for me to think about all of it, too. Thank you for responding.

CJ

Well, do what you want and pursue whatever goals you feel are important, but I don't think masturbating once a day is excessive, and I don't feel that it's something you need to keep "in check". Most normal people fantasize about sex several times a day (I know I do) and most are also pretty healthy and keep sexual feelings, urges, and activities in private where they belong and get everything done they need to do.

I don't think that you're necessarily SUPPOSED to be able to quash your sexual urges. They are a part of your biology. Unless they're taking over everything - which doesn't sound like the case for you...you sound pretty normal to me - sex and sexual feelings are a healthy part of life.

If it's an issue of control, you're almost always going to fail because you can't fully control your sexual desires past a certain point any more than you can stop breathing for a week.

[Chinball_Wizard]

I know this is an old thread, but I started it, so I figured I'd resurrect it instead of starting a new one. I'm still trying to exercise a little self-control. I'm now well into my 3rd day without masturbating. I'm so proud of myself. It's a personal best for me. Please don't get the idea that I have anything against self pleasuring oneself. I just might be its biggest fan. I just like to know I still have a little control over my emotions. Sort of like giving up chocolate for Lent. Yea, like that might happen. Anyway, I just wanted to say high. Have to go to the grocery store now. Mental note: stay out of the produce dept.

[CoJon]

(I wish I could see what the hell I wrote here originally, that I was saying "You're welcome" for in my short post below! Oh, well.)

For more than just the obvious reasons, I find masturbation very interesting.

I think everybody has different experiences with it, just like sex, and two individuals can have dramatically different outlooks on it. For example, you're looking to quit, and you have achieved a personal record after three days. (By the way, congratulations on having accomplished that. ) Now take me. I feel almost as if I should be jealous, because I would consider myself fortunate to get off more frequently than every three days, even by masturbating!

It's not that I have difficulty getting it up; I still wake up sometimes with junior enthusiastically standing at attention. It's just that I feel so unfulfilled when I have to resort to masturbating--like it takes me back to the days when I had no other options--and so I wait and wait...and wait some more, if necessary. Because to me any orgasm with my partner is better than even the most intense orgasm initiated by me. I'm talking emotionally, of course. My physical experience of orgasm practically no longer matters to me, unless my ever-increasing want of one seems it has begun to interfere with my ability to sleep or to concentrate on anything I must accomplish at that moment; then I will do it just to "get it out of the way." And I'll at least try and make it more enjoyable for myself--for example, by not touching myself but exercising until I come--and my orgasm might even be so incredible it might be shocking or intensely pleasurable for some to watch. (Of course, just the way I sometimes achieve orgasm when I'm alone might be intriguing to some curious individuals.) But, even after all that, I'd still rather wait to share it with my partner (probably owing largely to years of associated emotional baggage), even if I know it will be harder not to come too soon. (Although I'm getting pretty good now at initiating foreplay!)

But sometimes, rather than quit masturbating, if only for sheer convenience, I'd like to be able to "start" again.

[Xzilalnx2]

guys being lead around by their dicks

. Yeah I am a guy and I've felt pretty cheap giving into my strong desires a few times because I didn't feel it was a thoughtful decision. It was just me wanting to orgasm. The odd thing is despite frequency that was a good point my orgasms would not be as big unless I did wait. I have gone weeks and weeks w/o masturabation ( rarely ).
The way it was easy for me is just to become super busy where you just don't have enough time. I would also think that if you have a sexual partner that it wouldn't be too difficult to substitute the masturbation for mutual or oral,or intercourse..etc.

[Chinball_Wizard]

It's over! 'THE CLIT WON' I lasted almost 4days. It was the longest month of my life. I just got to the point where I couldn't think of anything else. I couldn't focus. I'm not in a relationship, so I was the only one suffering. I was spending more time in the gym, trying to wear myself out. I should have known better. Exercise has always made me horny, but I felt like I was climbing the walls at home. My advice, give in to your biological urges.

[igor]

Originally Posted by Chinball_Wizard

My advice, give in to your biological urges.

I always do