First time stories

hey everyone

i thought it would be a cool idea for all non virgins to share their first time stories with us virgins, just so everyone could get idea of what its like. You could include things like 1) how old were you/your partner 2) how long had you been going out before you did it for the first time 3) were you both virgins? only one of you? if so how did this make you feel. 4) how did you feel before and after? (nervous, scared, excited, etc) 5) where did it take place6) how did it change your realationship with this person 7) did you regret it? if so why? 8) are you still with this person today? 9) do you wish it happened differenly/ with a different peron? And any other additional info

I just thought it was a neat idea that might help shake any nerves away that virgins planning on having sex (like myself) may have. cause i know i'm scared as hell about it right now

[browneyed girl]

I was dating this guy who was my neighbor as I was growing up, for a couple of years. We were both virgins(although he told me he wasn`t at the time).
I was 16.
After lunch one day at school, we skipped our classes and went to this little homemade shack that sat out away by itself. I don`t know who`s it was, but we went there and started making out hot and heavy.
I was so shy and backward, and scared. I didn`t have a clue what to do, or expect. He finally convinced me to take my pants off. He got on top of me and tried to put it in, but it wasn`t going anywhere.
So he took his finger and played around down there to get me wet, and loosened up. He tried again, but he didn`t really know what he was doing either, I found out later.
But....we tried again the next day (yes. We got caught that time for skipping class) but he got in that time, but it wasn`t all the way. It was still awkward, and I felt really dumb, but I think everyone goes through this their first time.
We dated through high school, and I ended up moving in town. We both kinda went our separate ways, but I`m still friends with his sister.

[Cherry]

I was 16. He was 19, and a virgin. We'd been going out for 3 or 4 months, and the blow jobs I'd been giving him weren't cutting it anymore. he wanted sex. He kept pushing and pushing, and because of my personality (submissive tendancies, even at that age) and the fact I didn't want to lose the status of dating a bot who was already graduated, I did it. It was in the back seat of his Monte Carlo. It was awkward, and I kept wondering when it was supposed to be "fireworks", like what I'd read in books and saw on televsion and in movies. Do I regret it? Only in the sense that I didn't understand what was going on and it made me become more promiscuous. I don't regret what I learned about myself, or the strength I later gained when I dumped him for starting borderline abusive behaviors. Do I wish it could have been with someone else? Sure. But all those sexual experiences, and the experiences that went along with them made me the person I am toda. Even the relationship I had with my ex who fathered my children made me who I am today. So I can't regret things like that.

I lost it just this past New Years Eve, actually. ;-) Best freaking New Years of my life! haha we were dating about ten months then, and we'd planned it out that I'd come over around 8, we'd do it, then watch the ball drop on tv. I came over...we start in his bedroom, get the condom on fine, we're both ready and really excited...and then...he can't go in. I was just too tight. So we ended up being able to get his head and some of his shaft in, but it was uncomfortable. He pulled out and I finished him off orally, which he then returned. We were cracking up the entire time about it, so it wasn't awkward or anything. Afterwards, we went and lounged on the couch and snuggled until midnight, then kissed when the clock struck twelve.
Bottom line: it can't really be awkward or upsetting if you know each other well enough, and love each other first.

Cheers,
CaptTony'sGirl

[trickyjar]

boarderbabe, being a guy ya I want sex as much as I can. But for your first time waiting is a good thing. A year may seem long but you have to feel right. Don't let him guilt or talk you into to doing it, because you will regret it.

That exact same senario happened to my wife and her B/F at the time guilted her into having sex with him she didn't want to and she dumped him when he was done. She had regretted doing it but essentially he forced her into it.

Waiting is fine. I was 19 (virgin) girlfriend 22 (non virgin) did it on the floor of my friends parents summer home. I was really nervous and excited. We had been dating three months. That was 15 years ago and we are married with two kids never regretted a single moment.

Do what feels right in your heart.

[xjambix]

1. 17
2. 3 years
3. Yep, but he'd gone down on a girl and received a handjob, both while drunk, so it kinda made me feel under pressure a bit.
4. I felt fine before it, really calm and that. After it, I was really happy.
5. In his room
6. We became closer, but we went through a patch where I was paranoid about getting pregnant (I'd had a really late period after the first time we'd had sex and absolutely crapped it) so we didn't have sex and that fucked us up a bit, but we got through it.
7. Nah, I don't.
8. Yea, I'm still with him.
9. I kind of wish it was what happens in the movies, the romantic way you lose your virginity. We did that thing that Monica and Chandler did in Friends the first time they had sex (hide under the covers and take off they're own underwear...). But at least I can look back on it and laugh now.

wow xjambix, your 3 years makes my 1 year look like nothing! thats impressive! I think one of the reasons why my boyfriend is having a hard time waiting is because he's NOT a virgin, and i think it must be harder to hold out for so long when you've already done it. It kind of bothers me that hes not a virgin. I wish his first time was with me and he says the same. I dont think the fact that he's has sex is what bothers me, but i think its the circumstances it was under. He was only 14 and with an older girl. And its not like it just happened once or twice. They were only going out for less than a week before she talked him into it, and after that it sounded like they did it at least once or twice a day... Kinda gross since i didnt even have my first kiss at 14. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Where you were a virgin but your partner wasnt? How did this make you feel? I know that there's nothing he or I can do to change it but it still bothers me , although we both love eachother dearly and i know that he's the one and only person I ever want to be with. Oh, and in answer to finney's question, yes we have condoms, although i'd feel more safe if i went on birth control as well. The only thing is, i dont know how to bring it up with my mom. It would be so awkward! I know i don't have to have permission for it, since i am 18, but i still live at home and i wouldnt want to have to sneak around about it. One more question about lube..can you get it off the shelf at most drug stores, or how do you go about that? Thanks!

[Cherry]

You can get lube just about anywhere, from the pharmacy to the grocery store. It's right next to the condoms and home pregnancy tests.

umm well my parents dont let us even go in my room cause "its inappropriate" even if we have the door open. They used to let us in my room with the door open but not anymore for some reason. Yeah i think my parents still think all we do is hang out and kiss occasionally or something And i dont really want them to go from thinking that to BAM we're having sex. LOL.

[Evle]

My first real time was with my current partner, my fiancee. (There were two other failed attempts that I am pretty ashamed of... so...) We had been dating for a few weeks and decided it was time. We tried it on my bed, a single bed that's almost too small for me alone (6'5", large SOB ). Failure. However, we had fun with fingers and mouths. Two days later, I got smart and aired up a queen-sized air mattress that now lives in my room. We had a mini-marathon of three times... my first time, her first time getting it more than once a month for like 3 min. a time . Of course, I'm 28 and she's 21. However, we're both in school and living at home... Her parents are seriously consertive-religious. My mom is seriously cool and apperently had some fun in the '60s .
Boarderbabe... I'm pretty sure her mother still thinks she's a virgin. I'm her second boyfriend, she's engaged to me and she's been on contraceptives for years. Meanwhile, I fully expect my mom to start offering advice .
Good luck and take your time.
Evle