Rule 22

[Budde]

This is strictly my interpitation of the rule so take it for what it's worth.

I think the issue of asking questions is fine as long as the questions are related to the topic or phrased such that they are directed to the poster. Such as if someone we're to post a topic asking about his first time experience giving oral to his partner and how it was a horrible experience. So if we were to ask well "poster-XYZ" did you do this or did you do that it's no big deal just acquiring more information to get a clearer picture so one can give a better informed answer. But if someone were to replay to a question posted and replied that he found it best if you give head after sucking on lemons...... how many others have tried giving head after sucking on lemons? Yes the lemon thing is related to the topic per say but if you start asking other if they have had similar experiences you now have sort of derailed the thread and it's off in to a different direction. If not checked it could seemingly go on and on almost indefinitely.
Again I am not affiliated with the site but just thought I might give you my perspective on what it means

[Ann Andriani]

Lockhart,

I want to apologize for my delayed response. It has been a very busy weekend and I in no way, shape or form wanted to rush this answer to you and other members.

First off Ann I respect this site and think it is a fabulous place that helps people when they have no one to turn to.

I'm glad you've been respectful and took the time to repost your question because there were things I misunderstood in your original post. The tone of your post is where my misunderstanding may have occurred.

I've been frustrated by rule 22 ever since I've seen people ask questions from a different side of the original poster's question and having said poster be told to start their own topic.

So that others know which rule you're talking about, of the many that exist, that I'll highlight it here...

Rule 22...Please keep all discussions about the original topic. It's very easy to go off on a tangent because of fooling around, debating or because another question comes up. Unfortunately, that kind of derailing of the conversation does nothing to help the person who asked the initial question. If you do find that you have another question, please start a new discussion, you'll get more and better answers that way. Otherwise, your question will get lost in someone elses.

I think the confusion is coming in with 'original topic' as opposed to 'original question'. Let's take the example you gave here of 'man lasting longer'. This rule exists because in the past, especially when I first started this board, I would get people coming in and posting questions anywhere and everywhere. They'd post sex questions in the Rule category. There was no rhyme or reason.

Plus, let's say if there was a discussion started about lasting longer...someone would come in the middle of the discussion and post a question about how to give their g/f an orgasm who can't reach orgasm because the original question dealt with, in a way, orgasms. But that g/f question is completely off topic. It has nothing to do with a man lasting longer. Not only does it have nothing to do with it, but it's actually kind of rude because they're coming into a rather thorough discussion to ask something that has nothing to do with the original topic. I'm not saying that you can only answer the original question and nothing else. The rule states that you have to keep the discussion on the original topic. If someone were to post that they have the same problem, not lasting long enough, that post would not get deleted because it's the same topic. If you search the board you'll see some of that. Off the top of my head I know there's a few discussions about women not being able to reach orgasm, women on the pill and giving blow jobs that have that kind of thing going on...people coming on and saying, 'yeah, I have that same problem too." This rule was made for the extreme end of the scale...notice the end of the rule says...if you have another question, please start a new discussion.

It is the reason why there are sooo many boards flooded with the same questions. How many times do people need to see "how do i last longer" topics in one board. I do not see why someone can throw in a question into someone else's topic that essentially related to the subject.

Yep, what you said here is what I was saying...It has to relate to the original subject. We get visitors here depending upon what we talk about, what exists on this board. So if there's a lot of talk about lasting longer, there's going to be lots of discussions about it whether this rule exists or not. Which brings me to another reason for this rule...

One thing that you're assuming is that people search this board for discussions that have to do with their questions and that's not entirely true. Many people, once they receive their activation email, jump on the board and post their question as a new thread. They don't search, they don't research. They don't want to do any work, they just want answers. So regardless of whether this rule existed or not, these people would still be starting a new thread about a topic that's been discussed over and over again...because we receive visitors as a result of things discussed on this board.

There are also people that do search the board, but don't find a discussion that's exactly the same as theirs, so they start a new thread about a topic that's been discussed over and over again...even if the bottom line is, they want to know how to last longer. So even if this rule didn't exist, people would still start a new thread.

We've always given people personal attention to their personal situation. In writing this rule, I was keeping that in mind. Some boards won't let you post questions that have already been asked and get that personal attention. They'll delete your thread because your topic has already been discussed. That's not fair! My thought is, instead of your question getting lost in another discussion, start a new thread...then you'll get that personal attention to your specific situation. I think that's a great thing!

I can't help but feel that you may be tired of seeing the same questions by the way that you've inquired about this rule. I've mentioned over and over again on this board that you don't have to answer every question that's posted. If you're bored of a topic and don't feel like repeating yourself, just don't post. Ignore the discussion altogether.

Essentially I see a lot of the same topics with people such as yourself giving links as their answers to previous topics. Why ask people to create their own topic only to provide them with a link or point them out to another topic while enforcing rule 22? Sounds more like Catch 22 to me.

This is another good question. Many times links are posted to other discussions because those discussions contained numerous, detailed and varied answers. Many of those discussions also contain answers from members who don't post here anymore or who don't post as often as they did before. The discussion being linked to has juicy information in it that can not be recreated because those people that originally responded are no longer here. The person asking the question should be directed to as much information as possible. So I also think that's a good thing and not at all a Catch 22 because those good answers and ideas are not going to show up the current question/discussion.

As far as a lot of my links...many of my links go to articles that I have written because my job here is two fold, to help others by posting and moderate this board so it contains accurate, respectful information. Linking to an article helps me in that I know deep down that I am sending a person to a well-researched, well thought out article that will give them some real ideas and real answers. I have a lot of knowledge, but when trying to muli-task on this board, sometimes I forget important little details that won't be missed by sending someone to an article. I feel that as Founder and Grandpoobah, my answers should be very detailed, very responsible and factual. So linking to my articles is the most responsible and most helpful thing that I can do for that person. Usually if I have a really long response about a topic, I have not yet written an article about it. I get my ideas from this site. I learn here what people want to know about.

I was espcially disheartened when you deleted someone's question regarding likign to wear female clothes after ina topic about a girl liking her boyfriend to wearing female cloethes. Same coin, different sides, why the need for two topics?

I am sorry you were disappointed here. You have asked another good question though. The issue I had in that discussion was not the same coin, but that it a different side of the coin. Again, I've learned from my many years of experience running this board. The original question was from a girl wondering about her b/f's desire to wear women's clothes. Then in the middle of that, a man posts a question about his desire to wear women's clothes. This conversation would have gotten very confusing because we all would have to speak to each of them from their different sides of the coin. It may have seemed like I was being bitchy, but I was actually looking out for both of their best interests. If I left the man's question, the conversation could have gotten confusing and when discussions get too confusing people don't read them and then they can't benefit from them.

Another thing that could have happened is that the original question would get ignored because everyone would answer the newest question in the discussion and that's not fair to the woman who took the time and courge to post the original thread. I wanted that guy to get the personal attention to his important question that everyone else does. I even said that in my response...that he would benefit more and get better answers if he started his own thread. That's where, in this case, this isn't an extreme breaking of the rule, but a minor detail that will benefit everyone, those asking and those reading and those answering.

See continuation below...

[Cherry]

Personally, while the rules seem kinda strict, I can see quite easily why they're in place. This is a place for people to get information. Try watching a "newbie" post a question like the ones asked here over on the Literotica forums, in the general boards. You'll see someone quite quickly gutted and ridiculed, and the topic, once away from the mocking, gets derailed and is WAY off topic. The question starts out "how do I satisfy my girlfriend" and the last post of the thread before it dies a horrid death usually will involve something completely different. Nothing against that place or this place. But there are rules for a reason. It's usually about respecting other people and making things easier for ALL involved.