More curious than he is about anal sex.

[SpankableBrat21]

My boyfriend of 2 years has never suggested anal play, but I really like the idea of it. He does spank me though! =)

I'm kinda scared of freaking him out though. Any ideas for bringing it up?

Thanks in advance!

[Budde]

I know all the stuff said about communication and open conversation etc. not detracting form any of that of course but some times us men respond better to something a little more subtle. Next time your having sex why not do what an old G?F did to me. She was kneeling on the bed alongside of me with her head towards my feet. As if she were in a doggy style position and I was fingering her pussy and rubbing around it. She told me to rub her ass, so who am I to question her request. I proceeded to rub her butt and she was purring like a kitten as I rubbed on her hole just a rub not even entering it she squirmed and said oh yeah that feels good do some more. Well you didn't have to hit me with a brick to make me realise that every time I touched her hole she got excited or at least that was the message she was trying to convey. I rubbed it a little until she told me to put a finger inside her. We did this for a while until she told me to lube up her vibrator and put it in her ass.

I did and slowly fucked her with it. she was fingering her clit as I did and she had one hell of an orgasam. I was about to pull it out and she told me not and rolled over and had me slip a pillow under her butt and told me to lick her pussy again and then fuck her with it in her. After we were done she told me how great it felt and how she wanted my cock in her ass. Later on she lubed me up after getting me hard and pretty much told me step by step how she wanted it. I had anal sex before but didn't want to scare here away either by asking for it. She confessed about a week or so later that the whole ass in the face thing was all planned and there was nothing spontanious about it. She figured it was a safe way for her to tell me she wanted it. If I didn't approach the hole she figured it wasn't something that remotely interested me.

I'm not sure if this sort of approach is for you but it's food for thought.

[XStripper777]

Budde... sounds like your ex gf knew how to ask for what she wanted! I've got to admire her for that, pretty smooth woman!! If you're not one to openly talk about things like this, I'd agree with Budde... try what is ex did... On the other hand, if you are open to talk about stuff like that... just come right out and say "I want you to fuck me in my ass." one day while you're playing. That's what I did... and while I didn't want him to do it right then, it got the message out there, and let him know that I was ready to learn and go slow and try to take it... it took us a while to work up to it, but it was so wonderful and WORTH IT once we finally did.

I do have to suggest reading Ann's article on Anal sex... it's a great article and will give you all the "know how" you need in order to try it the first time... if you follow her advice, you'll feel a lot less pain, I promise!!

And, by the way, most men out there would really love to try that, but many are afraid that if they ask, their girlfriends will be put off by it... they dont want to scare you away... so I'm pretty sure that, unless something's wrong with him, he'd be totally willing to try it. Good luck, and have fun with it!!

[Chinball_Wizard]

If I'm ever unsure of the reaction I might get from suggesting a new activity, I usually head straight for the DVD player. I love porn!! Probably as much as any guy. I especially love watching with someone. I just makes it so easy to bring up new ideas. Go rent a couple that you know have some anal scenes in them. I suggest you watch them alone first. That way you can pck the one that has the best scene , as far as how you want things to go. When he's watching, gauge his reaction and maybe let him know that you never thought about doing anal before, but now it doesn't seem so bad. Or something along those lines.

[Singingpirate28]

I agree with Ann and Stripper. You need to bring that up in conversation soon otherwise it'll fester and you may possibly hold it against him. Communication communication communication...always best.

Question...do you like to play with your ass when you masturbate? If so, you can bring up the subject to him by masturbating in front of him and playing with your ass and telling and showing him what a turn on it is for you and telling him how you want him to finger, lick, fuck and spank you there!! Could be a great way to lead into it and have some fun. Then, let the games begin and hopefully he pleases your ass....

He may be really into anal play and just shy about bringing it up because he thinks you are NOT into it. Also find out a turn on of his. It's always fun to experiment and try new things. Good luck, I hope your ass is feelin' good really soon!