Confused.

[madstyle]

For the last couple of months I have been out and about meeting people left and right both good and bad and to my suprize the oppertuntitys have come and gone. I am still a total virgin never kissed, extc..extc... I want to become the best I can possiblty. If can offer more suggestions?. Also can having a one night stand really help grow more confidance?. Just out of curiosuity if thats true or not and what effects can it have on a person? does it help you grow in anyway?. The thought has been crossing my mind these last couple of days, some people have told me thats how they have become more confident and thats the way to go. Plus iam not getting any younger and I feel if I wait anylonger the best years might be behind me.

What can a virgin do to "subsitute" well for sex without actcually having it?.

Any suggestions will help alot. Iam growing in all areas of my life and I want to be ready as well as have alittle fun along the way and really change the way I have been doing things for awhile to something new.

Thanks.

[infoman]

How old are you and what's your gender?

[madstyle]

Originally Posted by infoman

How old are you and what's your gender?

Sadly iam 21 almost 22 and a male, still a virgin.

[infoman]

Originally Posted by madstyle

For the last couple of months I have been out and about meeting people left and right both good and bad and to my suprize the oppertuntitys have come and gone. I am still a total virgin never kissed, extc..extc... I want to become the best I can possiblty. If can offer more suggestions?. Also can having a one night stand really help grow more confidance?. Just out of curiosuity if thats true or not and what effects can it have on a person? does it help you grow in anyway?. The thought has been crossing my mind these last couple of days, some people have told me thats how they have become more confident and thats the way to go. Plus iam not getting any younger and I feel if I wait anylonger the best years might be behind me.

What can a virgin do to "subsitute" well for sex without actcually having it?.

Any suggestions will help alot. Iam growing in all areas of my life and I want to be ready as well as have alittle fun along the way and really change the way I have been doing things for awhile to something new.

Thanks.

I was a virgin until I was 26, but I had foreplay experience, but if you're already 22, you might want to consider seeing a proffesional for first time sex. That way you don't run the risks involved with one night stands, which could involve complications. If all you want is sex, then with a pro, that's all you'll get. Some have told me that they did gain confidence this way. Of course, it's also possible that you'll get into a habit of doing this regularly as a substitute for a relationship. Emotionally, there are risks involved anytime you have sex outside of a relationship, but only you can determine whether it's worth it. For most, it seems that sex just happens naturally, when it happens, but others like you, and myself, it just doesn't happen and presents a challenge. Good luck!

[XStripper777]

Well, infoman's got a point... I personallly don't think there's anything wrong with seeking out a professional. In my opinion, it's a "victimless crime" as long as there are no spouses or significant others involved, you know?

But at the same time, I do want to tell you that there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with being a virgin. I met a guy when I was about 21 who was like 23 and still a virgin. That fact turned me on so much... I wanted to be his first, lol. I banged his brains out to be honest... I just thought it was so sexy that he'd never given it to anyone else. We had a great relationship, of course, it did end eventually though. So, trust me, some women find that really sexy.

[madstyle]

Professional? I had no idea there was such a thing for this issue.

Is there anything else perhaps like books or something like that I could read that could help me best prepair for this? or is this something that you must learn by doing?.

[ddkittyp1mp]

Originally Posted by madstyle

Professional? I had no idea there was such a thing for this issue.

The professionals that they're refering to are prostitutes/escorts.

[madstyle]

Originally Posted by ddkittyp1mp

The professionals that they're refering to are prostitutes/escorts.

Oh!. I don't know if thats a good idea though most of those girls are STD positive. I was thinking you a way to prepare myself, educate.

[ddkittyp1mp]

Originally Posted by madstyle

Oh!. I don't know if thats a good idea though most of those girls are STD positive. I was thinking you a way to prepare myself, educate.

Ha. Obviously you're not too keen on that idea. Don't ever do anything that you're uncomfortable with. (I do have to say though...because I have had friends that were escorts...that they are NOT mostly S.T.D. positive. There are some that are...but not all....)

In the way of educating and preparing yourself...do you watch porn? Or look at porn magazines??? That could help to a degree. There is also a show that I looooove called "Talk Sex"...it comes on the oxygen network on Sunday nights, and they have people call in and ask sex questions, and they get answers. Also, (and I may be biased because it is my favorite magazine)...you could try picking up an issue of Cosmopolitian. Basically, 80% of the magazine is devoted to sex from a woman's point of view. It might give you some insight.

I just want to say, that sex can be confusing at first if you're not really familiar with it, but it doesn't have to be scary. NO ONE was born as a sex god...they had to experiment and learn and get experience. Just go with what your body tells you.

[madstyle]

I have been watching porn since I can remember but from what iv'e heard its totally diffirent from the actual thing, now iam not sure if thats correct or not. Its kind of chessey if you ask me I don't dig it like most men do.

I have also studied sex/dating/relationships for a quite along time throughout school and on my personal time even have read some of those magazines, Its time I take the next step into something I can really learn from.