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#1
04-25-2008, 01:17 PM
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Well im nearly 19, and ive just got myself a boyfriend for the first time in ages. Heres the worry; Its my first time having sex, im not the best looking person in the world nor the fittest, im not obese but im not skinny if you know what i mean. im inbetween. Im worried that the fact hes going to be completely turned off by how my body is and i wont feel comfortable, he says he loves me no matter what but what if he takes a look at me whilst under the covers and says no. Any advice?  |
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04-25-2008, 01:52 PM
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You need to stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Give yourself a little more credit, if he truly loves you, he's going to find you beautiful no matter what you look like under the covers. Besides, when you get to that point he's not going to be thinking about how your hips, thighs, etc. looks, he's going to be thinking about how good he'll feel inside you and how good he's gonna make you feel. Just try to relax and enjoy the moment, you'll just ruin the experience for yourself by being self-conscious. If it'll make you a little more comfortable try with the lights of the first time and maybe it'll make things a little less worrisome for you.
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04-25-2008, 02:04 PM
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Some men can be pretty shallow, but believe me when I say that if he didn't find you attractive, you wouldn't have gotten to this point. LostSerenity is right - give yourself more credit. Relax, go with the flow, and enjoy.
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04-26-2008, 10:13 PM
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I'll tell you a dirty little secret about boys. All of us care way more about sex than we do about fat. The shallow boys who won't be seen with a girl who has a few extra pounds aren't so much unattracted to her as they are worried about what their friends will think. If you have a boyfriend then he's not worried about that, so you are obviously past that stage. He will think you are beautiful in bed. |
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04-28-2008, 12:14 PM
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Listen stop worrying and just relax and enjoy safe sex with your new boyfriend when it happens. The way you describe yourself you sound average. Not too this and not too that so your just like the majority of people in this country. Unfortunately Hollywood and Madison avenue have burned the image of "what we are supposed to look like" or "the beautiful people image" and that just isn't the way it is. If your personally not happy with your body then do something about it, join a gym work out etc. That not being an issue just be comfortable in your own skin and when you do you will exhibit confidence. Trust me when I say that is more attractive then some skinny assed little wafe who sticks her finger down her throat because she gained a couple of ounces. When a woman is confident it shows in her sexuality. I have dated many BBW who were way more then sexually confident and believe me they were some of the best lovers I've ever had. Be the best lover you know how to be and just keep working on becoming better and better. One of the great things about sex is all the practice....... 
__________________ If it feels good do it! and if doesn't feel good your probably doing it wrong |
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05-03-2008, 09:47 AM
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I had my first time a week ago today. It is amazing. If you are not comfortable being naked in front of him, I would suggest you are not ready. I turned sex down with my girlfriend 5 weeks ago because of the same issue. We had only been together 4 weeks at that point though! We have been together 10 weeks tomorrow. Last week was different! We were both comfortable with eachother and it was a really lovely, enjoyable experience! If you are feeling self-conscious, I would not do it until you are comfortable or you WILL NOT enjoy it like you should! PM me if you want to talk about it a bit further because, like you, I am not slim but not obese! |
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05-03-2008, 12:28 PM
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Fillyuk, I have to tell you, that if he is dating you and wants to have sex with you, he is not going to be concentrating on your body flaws! He's just going to be happy that he gets to have sex! If you are really self conscious about it, try having very dim lighting (light some candles) or the lights off for the first couple of times until you get more comfortable. Another thing that you can do is to concentrate on a body part that you like. If you have a good ass, do doggy style (which will also hide a beer belly). Great boobs??? Try being ontop of him so they're in his face. But I'm telling you, he's not going to care about cellulite or jiggly parts!!!! He's going to be concentrating on the sensations. |
