I enjoy jerking but want more loving

[Hornyfarmer]

I'm a married guy with kids, i love nothing better then to make love to my wife but my appetite is ten fold over hers, i have tried everything to get her more interested and am slowly giving up, so masturbation is a major help. Anybody else have the same problem with a spouse who has no interest and what did you do? Thanks for any help and until then got my hand working again, lol.

[igor]

Raising kids can drop a wife's libido. You can help her more with household chores, perhaps. Help get her stress levels down.

[LostSerenity]

Originally Posted by igor

Raising kids can drop a wife's libido. You can help her more with household chores, perhaps. Help get her stress levels down.

That may sound too simple to be true, but I think if you tried Igor's idea it could help a lot. Stress would definitely put a damper on a woman's libido.

[Ann Andriani]

Hornyfarmer,

I'm sorry to hear that you and your wife's libidos are out of sync. Unfortunately, many couples are. One way to find peace with this is for both of you to look at your lives, your relationship and your health. A person's libido is affected by so many things that it's difficult to pinpoint any possible cause with the information you've given to us.

You've received some good responses and those are places to start. However, you may find that other things are causing this too.

Was your wife's libido any different or stronger than it is today? That's important because that would show that there is a change.

How is your relationship? Lifestyle? Is she under a lot of stress? Is there tension between the two of you?

All of this matters and I guess the more you can share with the us, the better we can share with you.

Ann

[ddkittyp1mp]

I would reccomend taking her for a romantic dinner, maybe take her shopping to buy some new clothes. Self esteem has a major impact on sex drive. Make her feel beautiful. And, on another note, the more sex you have, the more sex you want. Try to do everything you can to get her in the mood, and hopefully once you guys start having sex she'll want it that much more.

[LostSerenity]

Originally Posted by ddkittyp1mp

And, on another note, the more sex you have, the more sex you want. Try to do everything you can to get her in the mood, and hopefully once you guys start having sex she'll want it that much more.

It's true, my boyfriend had a way higher sex-drive than I did at one point. But then we started to have sex regularly, now I crave him at least every other day. Food for thought.

[MistressSavanna]

Sounds simple but true:

Try little things like helping her more, YOU cook dinner for once (and clean!) get the kids to bed and let her take a nice long hot bath....

Talk to her. Reconnect on an emotional level first, then it should fall into place.

GOOD LUCK!

[r3rjr]

I am in the same boat... My wife doesn't mind masturbation, but doesn't enjoy love making. She really doesn't give reasons except she is tired. Works as a nurse and we have two children. It is hard to not want sex watching her give herself pleasure. In the 13 years we have been together, she never has initiated sex, nor has ever give oral. I still respect her for her beauty and knowledge, but wish she had the sex drive from years gone by.

If they ever invent an actual working drug to increase female arousal, I will buy the company! lol