First time and question about penetration

[Ken-Y]

I think I will finally have sex for the first time coming up soon. I have a question about penetrating her. I am worried about performance since she is not a virgin but I am. I am curious as to whether there are different ways of thrusting after you penetrate. I know it really shouldn't be like pornography where you put it in then thrust like a mad man right? or is there a time for that? lol sorry I have no clue. I always thought that it should go in slowly then thrust kind of slow and work your way to faster sometimes if thats what they want. Also should you thrust at an angle or just straight in?

Sorry to ask so many questions. I have read and tried to get myself more prepared but know little about the actual penetration and thrusting.

[LostSerenity]

Originally Posted by Ken-Y

I am curious as to whether there are different ways of thrusting after you penetrate. I know it really shouldn't be like pornography where you put it in then thrust like a mad man right? or is there a time for that? lol sorry I have no clue. I always thought that it should go in slowly then thrust kind of slow and work your way to faster sometimes if thats what they want. Also should you thrust at an angle or just straight in?

Yes there are different ways to thrust. Like you brought up, there are different speeds, angles, and positions. For your first time I wouldn't worry about getting to fancy yet though. Just get your feet wet first. I'm sure your girlfriend (I'm assuming the girl in question is your gf) is aware that it's your first time and will be patient and understanding with the whole experience.

First of all in my experience I definitely don't think it's a good idea to thrust like a mad man like in pornos lol. That would probably hurt her. Lots of foreplay beforehand is a good idea. Usually the longer the foreplay, the longer the sex and the better it will feel. You seem to have the right idea already. Take things slowly when you first penetrate her, if you try to rush it there's a good chance you will hurt her. Then you can speed up your pace, if she doesn't seem to like it or it seems to hurt her slow down. Pay attention to her body language and how she's moving her hips and try to match your motions with hers.

Also you mentioned angle... I wouldn't suggest going in at an angle, especially not at first. You could hit the walls of her vagina funny and it could hurt her. With that being said, good luck and have fun.

[Ken-Y]

Thanks for the reply serenity. I am really nervous about this. She doesn't know its my first time and thinks I am experienced. I know this is a train wreck waiting to happen. For the record though she is not my g/f. I use to date her a while back and we didnt keep in close contact until recently again. She pretty much made it obvious she wants to have sex and I would like to, since I am going to be 23 and at this point I want to just get this over with since it only gets worse.

Im so nervous. Ugh.