Sex toy for males.

[Rayne]

Hi there,

Well the situation is this - I'm a male in my early 20's and I'm currently not seeing anyone (nor do I wish to have any type of friends with benefits type of thing going) because I'd like to be in a committed relationship to be sexually active. Anyway, since there are no current girls on the horizon for me, and having an insanely high sex drive and energy, toys came to mind. I'm not kidding when I say insaely high either =). I was reading up on that Fleshlight STU (Stamina Training Unit) and it looks like one of the best sleeves for men out there, but I'm still a bit wierded out by using a toy. I'm comfortable with my sexualality, but using a toy would make me feel a little strange. It just seems much more normal for a girl to have a toy than a guy, to me at least.

What're your thoughts?

Rayne

[Gooch]

I've always felt the same way. I don't know about you, but when I think male masturbatory aid, I think porn. Does porn just not do anything for you, or are you looking for a toy to do something that you can't get from watching a computer screen?

[Ann Andriani]

Originally Posted by Rayne

...What're your thoughts?

Rayne, I think you're perfectly normal. You know the saying, "Variety is the spice of life"? Well, that does apply here. You're not in a relationship and you're looking for something a bit different for masturbation. There's nothing wrong with being curious and trying something different. There are plenty of male toys out there that will provide you with a different feeling than just your hand and some are not very expensive at all.

The Fleshlight is a good toy, on the more expensive side though, so if money is an issue, I'd get something more affordable for your first time around. Larry has always been a fan of the Senso Lips. (Link goes to our review) If that one looks a little strange, there are others that look like tubes. What you want to be sure of though, is that it has ribbing on the inside, that's what provides the sucking sensation for you. These pocket pals, as they're referred to, are great because they're stroking toys. It's not a big ass/vagina that you have to try to f*ck, it's just a jelly sleeve that you stroke yourself with to enhance masturbation.

So my advice is to try a cheaper toy first, make sure it's something you enjoy and are comfortable with, if so, then upgrade to the Fleshlight.

If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to ask.
Ann

[Rayne]

Well, I did it, I finally ordered the Fleshlight STU, despite being mildly hesitant about it. I think the wierdness about it to me is, I'm a very private and discreet person. I think to myself, 'What happens when I find a girl I become nvolved with? What happens if she or someone else finds it? or if Friends/Family found out I use something like that?' That sort of thing. I guess that's my main issue with Sex Toys for men. It seems much more common for women to have one than for a man, at least it does to me =P.

And about Gooch's question, to be honest, I would like to see videos where the guy is getting f**cked by the girl and not the other way around like it always is, from what I've seen. I'd like to see one where the girl (or girls if it's a threesome) have their way with the guy and are in control of him instead. Now THAT would be extremely arousing.

Rayne

[jackcollins]

Originally Posted by Rayne

Hi there,

Well the situation is this - I'm a male in my early 20's and I'm currently not seeing anyone (nor do I wish to have any type of friends with benefits type of thing going) because I'd like to be in a committed relationship to be sexually active. Anyway, since there are no current girls on the horizon for me, and having an insanely high sex drive and energy, toys came to mind. I'm not kidding when I say insaely high either =). I was reading up on that Fleshlight STU (Stamina Training Unit) and it looks like one of the best sleeves for men out there, but I'm still a bit wierded out by using a toy. I'm comfortable with my sexualality, but using a toy would make me feel a little strange. It just seems much more normal for a girl to have a toy than a guy, to me at least.

What're your thoughts?

Rayne

Hey man its quite normal to use sex toy for men. Why you feel weired. Go and grab a flashlight and enjoy by yourself. it is the best toy that a man can get for him on net.

[funtime2006]

Actually, when I first heard about sex toys and looked them up, I was totally surprised to find that there were more for girls than guys given that guys have a higher sex drive and need to take the edge off more often. To me, sex toys for guys make complete sense.

And regarding a girl you're in a relationship finding out about it? First, just point her to any of the big sex toy sites and you'll see that there is tons of stuff for guys now, and millions of those Fleshlights are being sold. And more importantly, if she really isn't down with it, find a different girl. If you really want a "committed" relationship, you damn well better get yourself into a relationship that is fun, sexually open, and understanding. And yes, even when you're having plenty of sex, you'll still masturbate and you'll still want that Fleshlight sometimes.

And one more thing, if you ever get into a conversation about a Fleshlight being weird, just point to the the 16 function rabbit vibrator. You don't get any weirder than that.