Losing my virginity soon....need advice.

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So, a few months ago, me and my girlfriend tried to have sex. (kind of)

Anyways, i got nervous and couldn't get it up, one of the worst experiences of my life.

But now i think I've recovered, and we're both a lot more ready. (she's a virgin too, we both think that it feels right and we are the one for eachother)

Anyways, I am just looking for tips, advice, words of encouragement, anything anyone has to offer. Positions? Lasting longer than 3 minutes? I would be glad to hear anything from more experienced sexual beings.

I'm sort of scared, because I have a hunch she thinks its going to be INCREDIBLE. Kind of setting the standard high. I'm afraid I won't last long at all, and she'll be like, god damnit, our first time sucked. Also, if she doesn't orgasm within that time period, I'm afraid she'll think of it as a fail.

At the same time, I don't really want to voice these concerns, because I'll appear unconfident.

So whatever you guys give me, I'll take! Thanks guys.

[Gooch]

First of all, don't worry about positions, techniques, or any of that stuff your first time, and don't go into it with a game plan, because you'll just psyche yourself out when it falls through. (And nothing kills a boner like stress and anxiety). Just concentrate on doing what feels right and good. The first time isn't going to be the best sex you'll ever have, there's no getting around it. This should be about you and the person you're with, not the physical act itself. That said, it doesn't have to be a terrible experience, either. As far as stamina goes, you might do just fine, but it's more likely that you won't last long. It's perfectly normal. You can actually kill two birds with one stone here by going slow and heavy on the foreplay, like manual stimulation, or maybe start off with oral sex, if that's something you're both into. I say kill two birds because not only will it lengthen the overall experience, and get you relaxed enough to get it up, it will also relax her enough to minimize or even eliminate the pain that is common for girls their first time. Make sure you use a condom, even if she's on birth control, and plenty of lube. It will go a long way towards making the sex more pleasurable and worry-free. If nothing else, it'll help you last another minute or so.

All in all, just remember that no matter what happens, or doesn't happen, there will be other times. Nobody is a sex "natural", it has to be learned, and it takes practice. Lots and lots of practice.