Is it normal for him to press it onto me a lot?

[laceytennisgurl]

My bf and I cuddle a lot but his penis always presses my bottom. Is it normal for gf/bf to do this. I feel wrong when we are around his and my friends when he shifts me onto his lap at parties. My exbf cuddled me at parties alot and it was good but this new bf his hard is rubbing my bottom and last time it felt soaked on his pants. Also at the beach he does it and asks to take my bottoms off. Do other bfs do this? I like the feelings a lot so i don't jump off but i get scared when people see it. I dont want to tell anyone about it in case they call me a slut or something.

[Frantik]

I highly doubt anyone will consider you a slut for being affectionate with your boyfriend. I personally love to hug up tight against my girlfriend, or have her sit on my lap in private or in public. I can't say I've ever asked her to take her bathing suit off at the beach, though we've never really been to a very private beach so I dunno what the situation is with you about that. But seriously I wouldn't worry about it, it's kind of hard to fight off an erection when you got your ladies ass rubbing up on it, heh. But overall, I'd say yes, it's quite normal.

[t-baby]

When my b/f and I are spooning on the couch watching movies (me in front, him in back), depending on what mood he's in, he'll press into me every few minutes . . . and it usually ends up in us not finishing watching the movie.

But that's when it's just the two of us, he wouldn't do that at a party or when we were out with friends. We're both a little too private for that.

[laceytennisgurl]

frantik oh thats good then if im not slutty oh the bikini cuddles are on regular public beach, my friends seen his hard point lol.

t-baby yeh i know what you mean, i'm shy in public and my exbf only did regular cuddles not grind. New bf has big grinds a lot in front of ppls like he has no cares. Yep if we are at his home i love his penis

[Ann Andriani]

Lacey,

It sounds like your b/f is extremely attracted to you. Just spooning with you gets him aroused, I consider that a good thing. If you're uncomfortable with him wanting to get naughty or sexual in public let him know that. There's nothing wrong with saving your sexual activities for more private times. If you do get busy in public, just be careful you don't get caught. I wouldn't want to see you both get in trouble.

However, I do want to address this comment you made:

I dont want to tell anyone about it in case they call me a slut or something.

You sound young and I've been where you're at. Larry and I were sexually active when we were 14 years old and I feared being thought of as a slut too and drove myself nuts with concern. So hopefully my words will help you think a little bit differently. I actually just shared this in another thread.

The definition of slut varies from person to person. It has to do each individuals beliefs, limits and comfort levels. So what 1 person thinks is slutty, another would embrace as fun. For example, I think that responsibly sleeping with more than 1 person, even more than 1 person in one sex session is a great night of adult fun! I don't think I'm a slut for it, however, I'm sure others read my tales of having sex with Larry and other women and think I'm going to hell. Do I care? Not at all! I understand that it's human nature for people to judge others and come to quick and immediate conclusions that may not necessarily be accurate. There's nothing I can do to stop it or change it, it's human nature. So the only thing I can do is live my life in a way that makes me happy and allows me to sleep at night.

It is my hope that my words give you some hope and that you live your life in the same way. Don't live it to please other people. If people are really your friends and you respect them, they'll respect you back. If they don't, the relationship is out of balance and you need to reconsider things with them. You only live this life once, so make sure you live in it in a way that you're comfortable with. Screw everyone else (no pun intended).

Ann

[laceytennisgurl]

thanks Ann my bf is a lot older than me and hes been with other girls and said i'm not a slut so maybe because my gfs are not experienced they don't know about sluts so they just called me one without knowing if i was one.

I have not been with a girl but went to massage therapist for the last 2 weeks and it felt nice and it felt like sex does which i thought was only my bf could do!

[Patient_loVeR]

I definitely have to agree with t-baby on this. That's fine he's just showing u he cares. I mean the alternative is him ignoring u and I don't think u want. I do that all the time with my g/f and I'll tell u right now she's DEFINITELY not a slut. So just relax and have fun with it.

[Fifi81]

No your not a slut, your new bf is just really into you. My fiance gets the same way. He just has to look at me sometimes and he gets a hard on. If you are embarrased about the public display of affections then maybe you ahould talk to him about it. My fiance used to be similar when we were out in public and he's get a hard on that everyone could see, and he'd keep rubbing my bum. I talked to him about it, and we now have a code word that both of us can use to quickly get us out of the mood if we get too hot and heavy in public.