Feeling pressured

[madstyle]

As of late since putting myself out there to find the right one and experiencing new things here and there I have found myself with oppertuntitys to have sex with various women. Iam a complete virgin and never had a girlfriend and has never even kissed a woman or been on an offical date let alone have sex. To be honest i think iam a little shy of sex.

With my lack of success with the oppsite sex I find myself almost pressured into sleeping with them it was like on my birthday this past year I have kind of drunk(I don't do so well with achol) and this girl knew I was a virgin and persued me like crazy all I can say thank god for my friends that night. On top of that all my peers around me are having sex and I feel alittle left out and as of late I just feel totally pressured into just "Trying it out" but at the same time I don't feel so keen on doing so. My body wants it but my mind doesn't

I want to do this right even if I don't get married I just don't want to screw it up and regret it for life because once you give it up you give it up for the first time. I just feel so pressured into having sex since putting myself out there and interacting with women I have had some offers but they are the wrong offers to like you know do those things. Someday I hope to have a good sex life but hopefully with a woman that atleast like, alot of people keep telling me to start "Practicing" now so you can get better at it later.

Any advice or suggestions?

[Twinkie]

had the same feelings about doing it right my first time. i actually wanted my first time to be slow and passionate with maybe some rubbing and oral but it was more instant and lasted 5 minutes in one position but still memorable. she liked it and so did I. our first time opened us up to more. it feels like the first time is the ice breaker then from there on its easier to get into without the pressure.

my advice is dont think about it :P if you want to have intercourse with a girl you need alone time of course and develop a relationship. if you're interested in spontaneous sex like friends with benefits you gota find out if the girl wants that too. my first time was inviting a girl to my house to watch a movie alone at night.

this may sound quagmireish of me lol but turn your air conditioning on in your house if you invite a girl over and keep one blanket visible with you in it then offer to share the blanket. biiig step and easy to get into forcing you two close



but really dont think about it focus more on what she wants. and if its you and you want her too then thats all you need. make a mistake? doesn't matter just gives you two something to smile about. no reason for anyone to laugh at you sex is no joke its done in pleasure and emotion sex a good thing and thats the only way you should see it just be protected

[Budde]

"I want to do this right even if I don't get married I just don't want to screw it up and regret it for life because once you give it up you give it up for the first time. I just feel so pressured into having sex since putting myself out there and interacting with women I have had some offers but they are the wrong offers to like you know do those things. Someday I hope to have a good sex life but hopefully with a woman that at least like, alot of people keep telling me to start "Practicing" now so you can get better at it later."


In all honesty you have me cracking up laughing. Man RELAX this isn't the Spanish Inquisition. If you don't have sex your penis isn't going to fall off.

Yes you will have sex, and yes it will be with someone you like or are at least attracted to unless you go to a hooker which I don't recommend you do. You want to know how to interact with a women try talking to her. Women aren't these cyborg monsters who are going to rip your lungs out if you don't say exactly the right thing. (well maybe during the change of life thing but that won't concern you for a long time). Yes you are going to screw it up most likely. There probably aren't very many of us here who didn't screw something up the first time we did it and even for a few times after our first. But it always felt great it put you on top of the world.

You need to relax and chill, hey if some girl at a party wanted to boink you then why not? Unless your into the I have to be in love with the girl thing then ok I accept that but if all your looking to do is get laid who cares as long as it's consensual and your protected.

You need to stop agonizing over this it will happen. I do have to ask you a question, how old are you? Not saying your acting immature but you need to stop worrying about what your friends are doing and just be yourself.

[madstyle]

Originally Posted by Budde

You need to stop agonizing over this it will happen. I do have to ask you a question, how old are you? Not saying your acting immature but you need to stop worrying about what your friends are doing and just be yourself.

22 years old.

[Budde]

Your fine, your not some adolescent kid and your not the 40 year old virgin either. Typically things happen when we least expect them to. If you want to meet women and interact with them and eventually have sex with them focus your energy. Work on being yourself, work on personal grooming, work on being happy and confident in who you are. I can say this with 100% certainty that women in general admire a confident man and fine him attractive. Not overly obnoxious confident but one who knows what he wants, one who is not wishy washy, one who treats them like a woman but not being a douchebag when doing it. A good listener and what ever you do don't tell a woman how to fix a problem when and if she ever brings one up in a conversation.You can be sensitive and caring and still not be a candy ass.

Trust me I am by far not gods gift to women by no stretch of the imagination. When I was single and even now I have no problem meeting women, striking up conversations with them and even though I'm a happily married man I still get "indecent proposals" if you want to call it that. My buddies used to bang their heads against the wall asking me how in the hell do you get so many pretty women to go out with you or how come you always have a hot girlfriend. I would just smile and typically give my crotch a little tug just to fuck with them and never tell them what I just told you because they wouldn't have listened to me anyway.

I know as much as your thinking right now that this guy is full of shit and I am going to die a virgin , relax your not unless you want to