Nervous

[groggnr]

I've never eaten out a girl before and I want to be as good as possible for my gf when we finally get down to it. Any advice for a newcomer?

[Gooch]

I'll just give you the best advice I got when I was in your shoes;

- She probably knows better than you do what gets her off. It really doesn't hurt to ask things like "Does this feel good?", "Faster?", "Slower?", etc. It will make the learning curve more tolerable and show her that you really care about pleasing her.

- A good rule of thumb is the wetter, the better. Don't slurp and slobber, but things like flavored lube can be a lifesaver.

- Don't just focus on the clit. Pay attention to everything from the inner thighs inward.

- Don't attack the clit, either. (This was my big problem when I was starting out) Don't use a lot of pressure on the clit right away, go slow and gentle, licking and sucking on her labia, (inner and outer), running your tounge inbetween the labia, gently flicking the clitoral hood, tounge fucking her, etc. What would be considered too hard at first might feel terrific when she's good and worked up, however.

- Don't just use your tounge, use your whole face. You're not so much licking and flicking as you are licking, flicking, sucking, rubbing, and blowing. (Blowing air gently on the clit, I mean. DON'T try to blow air into her like a balloon. It can cause an embolism.)

- This one may or may not apply to you, but I'm not allowed to get my face anywhere near my girl's pussy unless I'm clean shaven. Some girls may not care, but a lot of them don't like little hairs stabbing their clits and sanding their skin off.

- Remember to at least act like you're enjoying it. You wouldn't like it if she looked like she would rather be balancing her checkbook while she's down on you, right? She's the same way.

- Once she starts doing things like bucking her hips, pushing her crotch into your face, squeezing your head with her thighs, etc., that means you're getting there. Don't stop, slow down, speed up, go harder, go softer, or do anything else different. What you're doing at that exact moment is working, and if you change it up, you might ruin it for her.

- Be prepared for the long haul. Depending on the girl, the time of day/week/month/whatever, what kind of day she's had, and the alignment of the planets, it could take a few minutes, or it could take forever. So it would behoove you to figure out beforehand a position that both of you can tolerate for at least 20 minutes.

These are just some basic pointers that worked for me. Your girl may be very different than mine, and some or all of these may not apply. It's still going to be a process of trial and error. Just don't give up.

Bon Appetit!

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by Gooch

I'll just give you the best advice I got when I was in your shoes;

- She probably knows better than you do what gets her off. It really doesn't hurt to ask things like "Does this feel good?", "Faster?", "Slower?", etc. It will make the learning curve more tolerable and show her that you really care about pleasing her.

- A good rule of thumb is the wetter, the better. Don't slurp and slobber, but things like flavored lube can be a lifesaver.

- Don't just focus on the clit. Pay attention to everything from the inner thighs inward.

- Don't attack the clit, either. (This was my big problem when I was starting out) Don't use a lot of pressure on the clit right away, go slow and gentle, licking and sucking on her labia, (inner and outer), running your tounge inbetween the labia, gently flicking the clitoral hood, tounge fucking her, etc. What would be considered too hard at first might feel terrific when she's good and worked up, however.

- Don't just use your tounge, use your whole face. You're not so much licking and flicking as you are licking, flicking, sucking, rubbing, and blowing. (Blowing air gently on the clit, I mean. DON'T try to blow air into her like a balloon. It can cause an embolism.)

- This one may or may not apply to you, but I'm not allowed to get my face anywhere near my girl's pussy unless I'm clean shaven. Some girls may not care, but a lot of them don't like little hairs stabbing their clits and sanding their skin off.

- Remember to at least act like you're enjoying it. You wouldn't like it if she looked like she would rather be balancing her checkbook while she's down on you, right? She's the same way.

- Once she starts doing things like bucking her hips, pushing her crotch into your face, squeezing your head with her thighs, etc., that means you're getting there. Don't stop, slow down, speed up, go harder, go softer, or do anything else different. What you're doing at that exact moment is working, and if you change it up, you might ruin it for her.

- Be prepared for the long haul. Depending on the girl, the time of day/week/month/whatever, what kind of day she's had, and the alignment of the planets, it could take a few minutes, or it could take forever. So it would behoove you to figure out beforehand a position that both of you can tolerate for at least 20 minutes.

These are just some basic pointers that worked for me. Your girl may be very different than mine, and some or all of these may not apply. It's still going to be a process of trial and error. Just don't give up.

Bon Appetit!

Gooch,would have given you an A+,but how about some fingering,[massaging that g-spot].the tongue fucking was great,but best when sitting on his face.love a shaved man's face rubbing my thighs.i got wet from reading it.

[Gooch]

Originally Posted by Luvoral

Gooch,would have given you an A+,but how about some fingering,[massaging that g-spot].the tongue fucking was great,but best when sitting on his face.love a shaved man's face rubbing my thighs.i got wet from reading it.

I was a little TWI (Typing While Intoxicated) at the time. It's hard to remember everything after the 8th or 9th beer.

[Gooch]

Glad I could get you wet, btw.

[Hunny Bunny]

Everyone back off! He's mine!

[Classic]

Sam Kinison's advice works well, just do the alphabet. Never got past "T".

[dstv]

when i'm having sex with my girlfriend i ejaculate so early.So how do i help this, help me on this please

[lu227]

i'm may be alone on this, but i've found that the most surefire way to make me cum is to not concentrate on my clit at all because i'm too sensitive (maybe just graze it in passing ) my boyfriend will start out slow, flicking and licking me around my pussy, bottom and top. i get the most pleasure from when he licks and sucks me fast at the top (a little under where the lips meet) and fingers me at the same time (i'm serious, using your mouth and your hands simultaneously feels AMAZING), but he has to mix it up a little cause if he just concentrates on just that one spot it becomes over-stimulated (also, that is like the main course haha he has to warm me up first by teasing me with most of the moves that Gooch already prescribed). i love it when my boyfriend licks the outline of my pussy in a circle from the hole up and around in between the lip and labia, up, around, down, and then flicks the top really fast and then tongue-fucks me as hard as he can.
other than that BE GENTLE. in the past i had a boyfriend who would get a little rowdy (sometimes i like it a little rough), but he would take it too far - he would suck my clit and bite me wayy too hard. i'm all for using teeth to pull and graze the labia (seriously, it can feel amazing), but if you do, do it really lightly. its like the difference between using your fingernails to lightly graze or to painfully scratch. don't do the latter!

gooch was right don't just use your tongue! a little pressure overall can be nice and if his face is totally in there you can feel his hot breath which is an amazing sensation.

just enjoy it, and don't worry too much about making her cum. just the sensations are pleasurable and knowing that your guy loves to give it to you feels great in itself!

[Larry]

Ann's article may give you additional information

http://www.allsexguide.com/oral_sex_female.htm