hey everyone...please help if possible! erection trouble!

[donofan21]

hey guys, i'm new to this site and I'm glad I found it, because I need some advice, and reading other posts certainly made me feel better about myself because i'm not alone with my problem. but, it still is a problem. i'm 19, in shape, i dont smoke or drink, and i can't keep it up. even during oral or a hanjob, it's not COMPLETELY hard. but mainly, my problem is putting the condem on and going to have sex. Like, as soon as the condem is on...its not completely hard anymore, and then my gf and i can't have sex. I know a huge part of this is probably nerves...especially now, since its happened like 6 times in a row. we got lucky once and it stayed hard enough, but we were both almost at climax so it didn't last very long. but i love my gf and she's so great and supportive of me, and she's also had sex with other people before this relationship...unlike me. so i know its a lot about anxiety issues. but...last night, we were trying to have sex, we were alone, in the mood, and i was focused completely on her...at least i thought, i went for the condem...and BAM. it's like half way hard. i bought bigger condems, so it's not that issue...i just want to be able to have sex with her...like, we still do other things and its great, but i can't help but feel less into it after that happens. and i don't feel myself thinking about it...but as soon as we put that thing on...it's gone. we've tried putting it on different ways...but like as soon as it happens, i go into panic mode and i'm sure that doesn't help either. so, i know the problem...i think...how do i fix it? how do i just relax? how does this not become a never ending habit? i'm scared...and i just want it to stop...so ANY advice would be so appreciated! THANK YOU!!

[nomnom]

My boyfriend and i have the same problem and like you and your gf i've had sex in previous relationships but he hasn't.... i think that makes him feel like he'll disappoint me or something even though we have had sex and it was great... any ideas on what i could do to make him less nervous would be appreciated too!

[Gooch]

First things first. Do you masturbate?

[pahadvice]

Relax bud... same thing happened with me. For me it was just a matter of time to calm down and become comfortable. What I did with my woman is we did oral sex and masterbation with each other and just getting that comfort level raised. Before you know it you will be doing just fine.

[Xzilalnx2]

A few things that may help
1: calm the nerves.
2: Stop masturbating at least 2 days before you have sex.(or more if it helps)

Put on a "for her pleasure: trojan" inside-out? j/k don't