Finding another girl for a Threesome

[jbeatons]

Me and my gf have always joked about it, but just recently I suggested an orgy, and she seemed, almost excited by the thought. We both aren't the greatest looking, however we have both been called cute and good looking by others.
My problem is, I have a very small circle of friends, all guys, and she has her very small circle of friends mostly girls, however we both work in the same place (our college dorm's cafeteria) and we talk to and know almost everyone there (close to 200 people), notice I said talk to, not really hang out with. What would be a good way to approach a friend and initiate the idea that i would like her to join me and my gf in bed?
This has been a fantasy of mine forever, and Im so close to fulfilling it now, just this one last detail is holding me (us) back.

On a side note, my gf is very very shy. So shy in fact that when it comes to talking to people (say a teller at a bank, or a salesperson at a store) she comes off as rude and kinda bitchy, so most of, if not all the propositioning and planning would have to be done by me. Any advice?

[Larry]

Sorry to tell you this dude but threesomes are a couples game and the rules are made by the women. For a successful threesome the primary couple needs to have black belt level communication skills and the social calibration to go with it.

The worst possible scenario is that your girlfriend is doing this for "your fantasy". A couple must approach a threesome rendezvous as a unified front.

Have a look at my posted answer here:

Threesome...Would you do it?

I would also suggest that you and your girlfriend BOTH read the book

The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to SLEEPING WITH THREE

This book will help walk you through the steps needed to find your third and will enlighten you and your girlfriend on all the pitfalls.

Going into a threesome with out planning is like walking through a field of land mines blindfolded.

- Larry
(Unicorn Hunter)

[UKRT]

I always thought it would be best for the girl to ask one of their girl friends. Girls chat so much with each other (we all know what they're like!! :P lol), so yeah. Would I be right in thinking this?

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by UKRT

I always thought it would be best for the girl to ask one of their girl friends. Girls chat so much with each other (we all know what they're like!! :P lol), so yeah. Would I be right in thinking this?

NO!....It should be done by both of you.Remember when the situation turns and she wants another guy.Do you want her to just decide on the guy?You might wonder why she asked that one.

Most guys want to have that fmf fantasy,but most don't want to see their lady being fucked by another man.Are you ready to see her pleasured by another cock and enjoy it knowing just she made that decision?

[redgreen0289]

This is very doable, but not half cocked. There are several books that outline the topic well. Goggle "how to have a threesome" and see what comes up. The first concept is that you must make the woman very comfortable with you both, second, make her think it's her idea, third, be gental and kind - and forth, follow up the next day w/o any expectation that it will happen again - if she invites you back it's her choice.

Don't get creapy or make ANY demands... as a guy, you have zero control and only stand to blow it. You'll need to be very on your game.

Keep in mind, while the sex can be great, you'll need to pay attention to both woman, and not make you GF feel as if you're more into the new woman more than her... lot of potential tripping points.

If your relationship turns into one (a real relationship) get ready to WORK YOUR ASS OFF keeping two woman reasonably happy. When things go well it's heaven, when they are both pissed at you - good luck!