Trouble entering my wife's vagina

[krp]

We are both virgins. We have tried intercourse several times, but everytime I try to enter her, she's in a lot of pain and I have to stop. Even when I insert just my index finger (I can successfully do this), she says it's quite painful, and certainly does not feel good to her.
We usually engage in at least 10 minutes of foreplay, and use a lot of water based lubes....
Some other suggestions we are goign to try soon include drinking (for her) before attempting sex, and also inserting vibrators of different sizes over a week or so to get her ready for my penis (I am not terribly large from what I've read, 6'' long, maybe an 1nch or a little more in girth or diameter).
We've been married for almost month and we haven't been able to consummate. We are both really frustrated and the consciousness of the situation does not help our cause. I try not to let her feel bad or pressured, but she feels a little bit anways.
Your help will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
KRP

[Chinball_Wizard]

It could be just a case of nerves, but I would suggest she see her doctor to be sure there isn't a physical reason.

[Zombiegirl]

A word of warning with the drinking before sex; it can lead to a woman not producing as much vaginal secretions, which would make it harder for penetration, so be gentle

although, I would try having sex without penetration. It really isn't the be all and end all of sex; enjoy her body in every other way imaginable, and rub her clitoris to give her stimulation down there
And also encourage her to enjoy you, too!

As the romantic that I am, I'm a firm believer that in order to actually make love, you need to show what a caring, loving act it can be; relaxation for a lot of women is, quite obviously, the key, as well as feeling cared for and protected. Take a night just dedicated to her; such as, long before you head for the bedroom, run her a bath, and make her feel pampered by washing her for her, and reminding her how beautiful she is massages are great too, (and are easier to do if you use an oil such as almond oil) and I highly reccomend buying some chocolate spread or other spreadable food stuff and eating it off each other's eroginous zones.

Try to take the pressure of penetration off the heat and put it onto the back burner for a little while, and try to keep passion alive during the day, even just by giving each other a kiss when you enter a room, and suggling on the sofa together

When you do build up to penetration; and only when she's comfortable, be shallow, and slow, until she adjusts and becomes accustomed to you (it feels really strange at first)

As for pain during penetration, its very common, when I lost my virginity any sex I had was exceedingly painful for a good week or two, but it was bareable because the man I was with held my hand and comforted me whilst I was curled in a tight ball; but it got better, and got more enjoyable very quickly after the initital pain

also, its nice to hear of people saving themselves for marriage ^^