Need some advice (kind of long).

[Tie-Dyed Mind]

There is this girl I am great friends with, and had a relationship with before. The problem was she didn't live in the same state, we were introduced through a mutual friend who she came to visit with. So most of our relationship was phone/online.

About three years ago we broke up, but it was amicable (mostly due to distance and our mutual immaturity), and I dated someone else for most of those three years. Since then I have been single, and we started talking quite a bit. She really helped me through that break up which was kind of nasty and we have become better friends than before.

More and more in the past 6 months it has become obvious we still have strong feelings for each other. Being that we are about 1500 miles apart, this would be really long distance, and we haven't seen each other in quite a while.

To further complicate things she has a son, and I am still attending college. So money is tight for both of us which means visits wouldn't happen very often, and because of our busy lives we don't get a ton of time to talk.

I keep telling myself to just stay friends because right now this most likely wouldn't work especially right now, and I should wait to take things further until being closer is a possibility... if that day does indeed ever come.

Do you see any way for this to possibly work? Or should I just put the idea of a relationship between us out of my head? I feel like I want to be talked out of it, but at the same time, I truly do love her, so obviously I want a this to happen.

By the way, I know this is mostly non sexual, but the reason I ask this is that part of the reason why I am hesitant to take this next step is a big part of relationships to the both of us is the physical contact, both sexual and not so sexual. I'm sure it is for everyone. This is one of the big things for me.

Anyways, I feel almost stupid having let it get this far, but I couldn't really help it.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Peace and love.

[SierraJayyy]

Aw, you seem like a really great guy, having a hard time trying to balance all of this. If it's meant to be, both of you will find a way to make it work. Love always has it's way of working. Have you both discussed getting back together though?

[Rhubix]

I have a somewhat similar story I don't mind sharing.
4 years ago sometime in the fall I went to a movie with a couple of friends (now married) He happened to mention he had a friend who was meeting them there, no big deal to me I was leaving the province to go to school in august so I wasn't particularly interested in meeting anyone.
Well when this guy showed up I nearly fell over. He was exactly my type I was hooked on site. I went completely out of my way to get his attention all night, and he avoided me thinking our mutual friends were trying to hook us up. (too funny) Needless to say I won and we ended up dating. Over the 9 months before I left we had a wild and wonderful time. It was bitter sweet because he was so great, but I knew I had to leave in august so I tried to talk myself out of him that whole time.
At the airport in front of the security gate I broke up with him. See you some day sort of thing.
We Kind of kept in touch over the years but our lives were both far and busy. I dated a man for 2 years but it ended up crashing and burning.
This year I get an e-mail from him. (we'd send one every 4-5 months or so back and forth) This one was saying he'd gotten a new job and was living 2 hours away. I was still with my boyfriend at the time but I was hooked again. Guilt ridden I tried to hide it, and talk myself out of it (Again.)
Things didn't work out with my boyfriend (go figure) and my first thought was - I am finally free to have this guy, we're both living in the same province, we're both single.
I invited him to go out for supper, which became supper and a movie, which became a weekend and now he's mine again.

Life seems to have this funny way of figuring itself out it seems. Let life take it's course. Concentrate on your schooling and who knows, maybe you'll end up finding a job right next door. <3

[Vicki]

I really have to agree with Sierrajayyy. I'm not a really religious person but I really believe it if is meant to work, it will. For example, when I broke up with my high school boyfriend, and love of my life, for freshman year of college 2 states away, I dated around like 3 other guys and had fun. Somehow a couple years later, my life at that college started to spiral downhill and when I moved back home, somehow, out of nowhere, my high school boyfriend and i started dating. We were the ones everyone knew would be together, etc, etc you get the point, and it just happened. I don't know how. Nobody knows how. It's weird...but I firmly believe it will happen if it's supposed to.

On another note, waiting around for things to piece together isn't exactly fate either. You need to put effort in to keeping your relationship with her, regardless if it's a friendship or love relationship, going. If you guys stay good friends and it's in the cards for you to be together,I am positive you will turn that friendship into love when you can both make it work.