New Relationship, New Questions

[Redemption7001]

Hello,
This is my first time posting here, I have never really had any questions until now. I am most likely going to be with this woman for a long time, so I am wanting to please her to the best of my ability.
Here are some of my questions:
1.) She likes it rough, but my size hurts her. It is only if I am pushing slow that it doesnt hurt her cervix. Its not that she likes hitting or choking, so I don't understand what she means by rough, only that she likes to be held down. And spooning, how in the world do you be rough with that?
2.) When she is in the mood to be passionate she likes to move very slow, if any at all. Usually I would be laying on my back at this point and her on top, facing me. I have a very hard time staying hard with this, any ideas?
3.) On the issue of staying erect, It is also hard for me to pull out spin her around and go back in without losing some of my hardness. I have no issue staying up for long periods of time, but when it comes to things like standing, or pulling out and repositioning it ruins my concentration.
4.) Her main way of getting an orgasm is by being passionate.. Kissing and just me sitting inside her without moving. What is causing this? Is there another method I could use to trigger the same?
I appreciate any help!

[onlooker]

i think the most improtant thing to do is communicate together and tell each other what u like best and ask heaps of questions like eg. do u like it like this etc be willing to change positions or speed up slow down etc just be glad with what you have enjoy the moment and go with the flow and try letting your wife/partner show u what she wants and how she wants it, just listen and if she says stop stop. and seeing you have no problems keeping it up dont be scared to pull it out and reposition yourselves and then get on with the business. hope i have been some help