G-Spot Vibe.... any tricks on how to use?

[Fifi81]

Hey hey. I bought a g-spot vibe today (shaped like a little finger but with a curved knob on the end), and some g-spot stimulant gel (recommended by my local adult store). I set myself up to have a beautiful evening testing out my new toy and was all relaxed and really looking forward to it. It surely does pack a punch but I still found that I needed clitoral stimulation to "get off". Is there any trick to using it? I really would like to experience a vaginal orgasm, any tricks/tips?
I felt like I was coming close to a vaginal orgasm but then it died off and I ended up getting frustrated (and my hand started cramping) and going for the clitoral orgasm.
Also bought a soft touch waterproof bullet/egg with 7 pulsation levels (OMG!!!!!!)

[Ann Andriani]

Fifi,

I understand where you're coming from. Recently, I've been sent some g-spot toys for review and am learning more and more about g-spot stimulation with a toy. One thing that I've learned is that I don't always have an orgasm with g-spot stimulation alone. Sometimes the g-spot stimulation can get me close but then using a vibe in the area of my clit, but not directly on it, can bring me to a very satisfying orgasm. And there's nothing wrong with climaxing that way.

Some toys are sold leading the user to believe that this toy alone will bring them to orgasm and that's not necessarily true, at least not all the time. I think part of what happened to you was that you went into this experience with the goal of climaxing from g-spot stimulation of your new toy. When that wasn't happening you became impatient, changing your state of mind, making orgasm more difficult. Whether it's sex with a partner or masturbation, when it's goal oriented and not just to feel good and have fun, orgasmic difficulties creep in. I understand you started relaxed, however, it sounds like that changed as orgasm didn't happen.

Also, I'm not sure what toy you bought exactly, was it something you put on the end of your finger? One thing I'm learning about g-spot stimulation is that just holding a vibrator against it, will not be enough to reach orgasm. There's a certain amount of pressure and/or tapping that I need to really get off. I'm not sure how much g-spot masturbation you've been experimenting with, but it could be that you were aroused by the vibrations, but just weren't experiencing enough to go over the edge.

G-spot toys need to be made of a firm material and have some surface area to them, in order to properly stimulate the g-spot. Many g-spot toys don't really offer that, nor the design to allow the user to really get in there. Maybe you can post a link to the toy you bought. If I see it, I may be able to make better suggestions.

Either way, don't get frustrated about how you need to reach orgasm. There's nothing wrong with holding a vibe on your clit to climax. If g-spot stimulation is new to you, give yourself time. Try different things and see what feels best. The idea of sex and masturbation is to make yourself and/or others feel good. There's no right, wrong or proper way to do that. For we women, all our naughty bits are so close down there, so as you're stimulating one area, everything else is really getting indirectly stimulated.

I hope something within helped. If you can be more specific with questions, I may be able to assist further.

Ann