Need some help from the ladies

[pahadvice]

Hey all. I've been coming to these forums for a while and this is the first time I'm posting, because honestly... I need your help.

My fiance and I will be together now for 3 years this coming January. We recently purchased a house together and are doing good except in the bedroom. She seems to have no enjoyment with being intimate at all anymore. We used to always have sex on Wednesday (humpday ) and also a couple of times on the weekend. Now, we are hardly having sex anymore at all, and when we do all she wants to do is get me to cum and be done with it. No fun no nothing. I can't even get her in the mood anymore. The last time we had some really good sex had to be almost 2 months ago now. Her work is overworking her a bit, but she just can't say no to her bosses.

So, I guess ultimatly... can the ladies here maybe give me some advice on how to get her in the mood? Because honestly wanking it is getting a bit old.

p.s. If you need more info just let me know.

[Hunny Bunny]

[quote=pahadvice;39301]We used to always have sex on Wednesday (humpday ) and also a couple of times on the weekend.QUOTE]

Have the two of you always planned your sex lives like this? Do you ever do anything outside the norm? She may just be bored with the routine. Sex is supposed to be fun, but it can start to feel like a chore if it's always the same. There's nothing wrong with planning and preparation, but sometimes the best sex is spontaneous and unplanned. (Maybe even a little scary). Her work may have something to do with it, too, especially if it's been especially difficult for the last two months. When I get bogged down at my job, sex becomes the last thing on my mind.

Have you discussed this with her? If the two of you are getting married, you should be able to have an open, honest discussion about these kinds of problems. Let us all know, will you?

[pahadvice]

We never really plan anything, but it also seems that if there is anything to be done I have to be the initiator. Which can get really old after a while. That aside though... we have talked about the subject, and all I get is that she just isn't in the mood. I also ask her if there is anything I can do to help turn her on, but she doesn't ever have anything that comes to mind. I do honestly think it is her job, but when my advances keeps getting turned down I just can't help to think that it is me. I will talk with her in the morning, and I will let you know how it goes.

[bamachick]

Her next off day tell her you want the two of you to just relax and spend time together. If things have been crazy with work and stuff it's easy for anyone to let some things just go. One thing me and my husband does from time to time is just take a weekend trip, go somewhere and just enjoy each other, if possible leave the cell phones behind. Just spend time with each other, relax, take a bath together, take a nap in the middle of the day, little things to make you feel close again, and like it's not just work, home, clean, cook, kids, homework, baths, sleep... stuff can get exhausting, and there are several night me and my husband will try to plan it to where we can have some alone time together, but by the time the kids are asleep and I get the house knocked through, one of us is usually already past tired.

Good luck I hope this helps some.

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by pahadvice

We never really plan anything, but it also seems that if there is anything to be done I have to be the initiator. Which can get really old after a while. That aside though... we have talked about the subject, and all I get is that she just isn't in the mood. I also ask her if there is anything I can do to help turn her on, but she doesn't ever have anything that comes to mind. I do honestly think it is her job, but when my advances keeps getting turned down I just can't help to think that it is me. I will talk with her in the morning, and I will let you know how it goes.

Being stressed out at work obvious could have alot to do with it.Before My h/b went into his own business we were somewhat in a sexual rut.Instead of cooking we ordered out,then started getting mutual massages.Our massages became erotic,sometimes just mastubating each other,sometimes full blowing sex.In our spare time we we got involved in yoga.This really relaxed us both.We then started doing it alone in the nude.We learned about g-spot massage and prostate massage thru tantra.He made sure that he always gave me my orgasms first[oral& g-spot massage].This turned around our moods and interest in sex.We kept work at work and starting enjoying our time together and sex a lot more....When I was tired he would make sure i got an orgasm,letting me just lay back as he licked and played with me,then letting me sleep.When he was tired I gave him a blow job,milked his cock and licked him clean so he could just fall off to sleep.....I'm sure it's not you and she still is concerned that you have an orgasm so things are not that bad....Massage that stressed body of her's and see where this takes you...I hope it works!..PS Don't worry about having sex the first time,take your time massaging those feet,legs,butt,etc before you get to those fun areas.Then use a little tongue..