Im not normal, I cant come

[sextrip]

This issue has risen again and again. From my first sexual partner to my present one. I can't orgasm.

I can orgasm by myself with a pillow just fine. But anything else, vaginal, oral, fingering... I can't come.

The guy I'm seeing just called me up after a few weeks of ignoring me. First to tell me our age gap is too big, but then after prying I think I found the real reason, the all too familiar question arises. "I just think that both people should orgasm. I dont think I can give you what you are looking for."

.. this was a huge issue with my last boyfriend. But after talking and getting a bit confused. And trying to say "It's not like I dont get any pleasure at all, I still enjoy sex." the same thing rolls around again. He just feels it's necessary. He talk me into letting him eat me out on our next encounter (Wednesday), and I immediately became self-conscious and very nervous.

I have had oral before, but I have never found it pleasurable. It's just awkward for me. I am not a sensitive person, very little to no nipple sensitivity or anywhere else for that matter

If anything, I think it's very uncomfortable when they have any direct contact with my clit. Sometimes it tickles, but i never found it at all pleasing... just annoyingly awkward. Plus I'm super self-conscious about that area. I'm always worried about the cleanliness or smell, and then taste. Maybe I worry a little about how it looks too...

I dont care that I cant come, it doesnt bother me that much. But it seems like it's the most important thing to everyone else, and it just ruins what we have going.

I'm nervous about it. I'm starting to feel that there is something wrong with me and I'm not desirable because I'm broken.

I need some tips... either ways to relax while he's giving me oral or how I can fake it convincingly.

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by sextrip

This issue has risen again and again. From my first sexual partner to my present one. I can't orgasm.

I can orgasm by myself with a pillow just fine. But anything else, vaginal, oral, fingering... I can't come.

The guy I'm seeing just called me up after a few weeks of ignoring me. First to tell me our age gap is too big, but then after prying I think I found the real reason, the all too familiar question arises. "I just think that both people should orgasm. I dont think I can give you what you are looking for."

.. this was a huge issue with my last boyfriend. But after talking and getting a bit confused. And trying to say "It's not like I dont get any pleasure at all, I still enjoy sex." the same thing rolls around again. He just feels it's necessary. He talk me into letting him eat me out on our next encounter (Wednesday), and I immediately became self-conscious and very nervous.

I have had oral before, but I have never found it pleasurable. It's just awkward for me. I am not a sensitive person, very little to no nipple sensitivity or anywhere else for that matter

If anything, I think it's very uncomfortable when they have any direct contact with my clit. Sometimes it tickles, but i never found it at all pleasing... just annoyingly awkward. Plus I'm super self-conscious about that area. I'm always worried about the cleanliness or smell, and then taste. Maybe I worry a little about how it looks too...

I dont care that I cant come, it doesnt bother me that much. But it seems like it's the most important thing to everyone else, and it just ruins what we have going.

I'm nervous about it. I'm starting to feel that there is something wrong with me and I'm not desirable because I'm broken.

I need some tips... either ways to relax while he's giving me oral or how I can fake it convincingly.

I'm also very sensitive down there[clit].I found out that if he fingers me and licks my lips as i massage my clit myself it becomes less sensitive.When I become more aroused he sucks my clit very gentley.Soon it feels good for him or me to put pressure[hand,mouth,tongue].Of course he takes his time licking my thighs in between playing with my clit........If your worried about smell and cleanliness make sure you shower before sex.Actually there is not much taste[being bisexual I know].The only thing I ever noticed is the fresh taste and smell[use a little perfume].............Most men always think they are not doing there job if they can't make a woman orgasm[A manly thing]....I can't answer about your nipples not being sensitive,except that maybe besides your not relaxing enough[I think that's obvious],maybe your haven't found the man you have fallen head over heels for...Also alot of people don't know how to love their own bodies...Try staying naked for entire weekend[sounds stupid],but a friend of mine while in college was given this assignment..She said it gave her a real awakening about her body...I don't think faking is the answer...Working towards enjoying your body's pleasures is sure worth it......If all fails talk to a doctor....Good Luck