its new but i see where its going..or do i?

[sunnygirl]

hi everyone!!! I havent been on here in a VERY long time.. hope everyones well. .so i met a guy a couple months ago and for the first time in a LONG time, im very attracted to him. We first had sex about 3 weeks after we met and the first time he just layed there and I did all the work. not a problem! but then the 2nd, 3rd and 4th time ... same thing

im not used to this! He's not passionate or aggressive at all. I can be shy to but i knew if i didnt step it up, we both wouldnt get much done. I have to tell him I'm "tired" for him to switch positions. I gave him oral once and he has never attempted on me. He's also very quiet so I'm never sure if anything I do is working. I know it is but what's good and what's REALLY good? I do not know. I tried to ask him questions or make comments and he gives me a look like im being ridiculous, sometimes he even smirks at it.

problem is, i really do like him. He's an ADULT in his 30's. He's not easy to read or talk to about this stuff. I just wish he would be a little more aggresive, grab me, do SOMETHING! I know I could bring this up again but im pretty sure he wont respond the way i'd like. plus, i have it in the back of my head that he is the way he is, whether it's spoiled, selfish or shyness. I can't figure it out.

He told me his last 2 gfriends cheated on him. I couldnt figure it out, why would someone cheat on him? he's extremely handsome, is confident and cool, pays for everything ("gentlemen") etc. BUT I think this is the reason.

advice please!!!! I don't know what to do. It's such a damn shame!

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by sunnygirl

hi everyone!!! I havent been on here in a VERY long time.. hope everyones well. .so i met a guy a couple months ago and for the first time in a LONG time, im very attracted to him. We first had sex about 3 weeks after we met and the first time he just layed there and I did all the work. not a problem! but then the 2nd, 3rd and 4th time ... same thing

im not used to this! He's not passionate or aggressive at all. I can be shy to but i knew if i didnt step it up, we both wouldnt get much done. I have to tell him I'm "tired" for him to switch positions. I gave him oral once and he has never attempted on me. He's also very quiet so I'm never sure if anything I do is working. I know it is but what's good and what's REALLY good? I do not know. I tried to ask him questions or make comments and he gives me a look like im being ridiculous, sometimes he even smirks at it.

problem is, i really do like him. He's an ADULT in his 30's. He's not easy to read or talk to about this stuff. I just wish he would be a little more aggresive, grab me, do SOMETHING! I know I could bring this up again but im pretty sure he wont respond the way i'd like. plus, i have it in the back of my head that he is the way he is, whether it's spoiled, selfish or shyness. I can't figure it out.

He told me his last 2 gfriends cheated on him. I couldnt figure it out, why would someone cheat on him? he's extremely handsome, is confident and cool, pays for everything ("gentlemen") etc. BUT I think this is the reason.

advice please!!!! I don't know what to do. It's such a damn shame!

Hi and fine angry girl....next time your out you pay,then tell him it's his turn to return the favor..hate to tell you but without passion someone is going to get hurt..lay it on the line,tell him your not his ex's and you want some responce...seems you have a good heart.don't let it be broken for someone who can't move on or whatever his problem is...next time you give him oral plop that fannie right down on his face..then you'll see if your wasting your time...questions involving a relationship don't deserve a smirk,they require an answer.get it or you move on....Good Luck

[Ann Andriani]

Sunnygirl,

This may not be what you want to hear, but I think you do know where this is going. Currently your relationship is still new, new to the point where this guy should be wanting to woo you. It doesn't sound like he's trying to. Either way, this is what you know about him:

• He's not aggressive during sex and you like guys that are aggressive.
• He appears, not sure if he is or not but it's all we have to go on, but he appears to be selfish during sex making you do all the work and giving nothing in return. It sounds like you prefer a more even playing field.
• When you try to discuss the relationship, he smirks and blows you off, which is NOT a positive response. So either his ego is too big that he's too embarrassed to discuss things or his ego is too big that he doesn't want to admit to any difficulties.
• Either way, he doesn't talk about sex or relationships well and it sounds like you like to talk about things.

So knowing these things to be true and this relationship being so new, do you think it's all worth the effort because it really is up to you?

Ann