is this normal?

[infoman]

For most of our 30 year marriage, I've never wanted sex with my wife more than once a week. The other times, I prefered to masturbate because orgasms are so much more powerful and satisfying. Also, I infrequently see an escort when I really want some excitement. For the first 10-20 years, my wife wanted more sex, but I made excuses. Now, that she's menopausal, she is okay with once a week sex.

[Budde]

What are you asking exactly, your wife's lessoned want for sex or your behavior? Sounds like you missed the boat

[infoman]

Originally Posted by Budde

What are you asking exactly, your wife's lessoned want for sex or your behavior? Sounds like you missed the boat

My behavior. Sorry, if I wasn't clear.

[Budde]

Well I need to choose my words wisely because it's not favorable to be too critical of any one's posts. I'll just ask you a simple question, how would you feel if your wife was stepping out on you all those years you were married for something more exciting?
The real excitement may have been right there at home if you just gave her half the chance. She seemed to want sex more then you were giving it too her so maybe she too wanted more excitement. It's all water under the bridge now. No one really has the right to sit in judgement of anyone else, you'll be the judge of that.

[infoman]

Originally Posted by Budde

Well I need to choose my words wisely because it's not favorable to be too critical of any one's posts. I'll just ask you a simple question, how would you feel if your wife was stepping out on you all those years you were married for something more exciting?
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I know how I'd feel because it happened! She experimented a bit, herself and I can't blame her. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, too, right? It wasn't a great feeling, but it was for her benefit and I was okay with it.

[Ann Andriani]

I'm sorry Infoman, but in order to give you a straight answer, I need to better understand what your question is. Can you rephrase it for me?

Ann

[infoman]

Originally Posted by Ann Andriani

I'm sorry Infoman, but in order to give you a straight answer, I need to better understand what your question is. Can you rephrase it for me?

Ann

I guess I didn't do a good job with my original post.

Basically, I'm asking how typical it is to not necessarily want sex with your wife more frequently than once a week. This has always been true since the beginning of our marriage. I prefer to either masturbate other times or on very infrequent occasions get some outside release.

[Budde]

"on very infrequent occasions get some outside release."

So your asking is it normal for a man to not want sex with is wife more then once a week when she wants it more and it it normal for a man to cheat on his wife with a prostitute. I don't have any numbers but I would have to say of course it's not "normal" or "the norm" Unless other wise agreed upon aka an open marriage I would say it safe to say married or not most couples are monogamous. If your methods work for you and your comfortable with them then I guess this is whats normal for you. One could endlessly argue the moral points of this but what's the point. Don't take this as passing judgement but it seems to me as though your looking for validation or confirmation that what you did was ok. I used to be one who would come straight out and say you are this and that for cheating etc. as I personally have a zero tolerance when it comes to cheating but I have a different outlook. As long as what one does it not criminal and is done consensually your the only one following the needle of your moral compass and thats all that should matter to you.

[infoman]

Originally Posted by Budde

"on very infrequent occasions get some outside release."

So your asking is it normal for a man to not want sex with is wife more then once a week when she wants it more and it it normal for a man to cheat on his wife with a prostitute. I don't have any numbers but I would have to say of course it's not "normal" or "the norm" Unless other wise agreed upon aka an open marriage I would say it safe to say married or not most couples are monogamous. .

My wife is okay about me seeing occasional prostitutes, so I'm not really cheating.

[Budde]

Well then if it works or worked for you two then thats all that matters, but i Would say it safe to say if you polled a hundred or maybe a thousand or so married couples or maybe just the wives I would venture to say most if not all would say it's not normal or acceptable behavior.
In all honesty what some of us do or have done here myself included may not be viewed as normal by societies standards but who cares what others think or what is normal. There are only two people in this world I have to answer to when it comes to sex or anything related to it. A: the women I'm having sex with aka my wife and B: the old fart I see in the mirror every morning when I can stand to look at him.