Middle aged couple playing

[lovingardeners]

we are a middle aged couple - sounds such a terrible term
we feel in our prime.....
anyway

we love sex and there are a couple of areas i wanted to ask peoples opinions or thoughts on

we both love each other and are both determined this is "forever"

when we started we did play some pretty raunchy things such as
- playing in the car in the park
- with a couple of couples
- attending various group nights to watch and play - no swapping
- and some other fun things

we are rather settled now and yet still .......fun

she is bi and wants to try to bring a female into the mix occasionally but also wants to dom her and watch me fuck her
- but also gets insecure at the thought - normal i think

and

we also enjoy some bdsm play and she loves to be sub but is having trouble getting her mind to a place where she can give up and enjoy - her work requires her to be in control - hence i think the sub switch when in bed

i have suggested she writes out scenarios she wants to play and i will make them happen

any thoughts on either of these people would like to offer thoughts?
thanks
bc

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by lovingardeners

we are a middle aged couple - sounds such a terrible term
we feel in our prime.....
anyway

we love sex and there are a couple of areas i wanted to ask peoples opinions or thoughts on

we both love each other and are both determined this is "forever"

when we started we did play some pretty raunchy things such as
- playing in the car in the park
- with a couple of couples
- attending various group nights to watch and play - no swapping
- and some other fun things

we are rather settled now and yet still .......fun

she is bi and wants to try to bring a female into the mix occasionally but also wants to dom her and watch me fuck her
- but also gets insecure at the thought - normal i think

and

we also enjoy some bdsm play and she loves to be sub but is having trouble getting her mind to a place where she can give up and enjoy - her work requires her to be in control - hence i think the sub switch when in bed

i have suggested she writes out scenarios she wants to play and i will make them happen

any thoughts on either of these people would like to offer thoughts?
thanks
bc

First i would say she is a switch[being in a bdsm,also sub].Also i think everyone is a bit of a voyuer..you say she wants to watch you fuck her.she can do that and still be involved,which might take care of those fears she has...Our lady loves it when he is fucking her and she gives me oral or i kiss,fondle her boobs and visa versa..we also have our lady fun[in the shower,bathing,or after we have wore him out,shopping,etc].....as for sub desires,take the time,talk about it and have fun enjoying..it can start as a role playing and she can find herself from there and your boundries...it took some time and experimenting with my h/b until he realized this was me[sub,bi,voyuer].i have handed over all control now [of course with boundries].he now knows that i need disapline[a good red bottom],no blood or permanant marks.it's not role play..but there is nothing wrong with role play if it keeps your relationship and sex life interesting...some people just like to be submissive in the bedroom....Remember this type of a relationship takes trust and respect to a higher level.

[Sieglinde]

This sounds arousing for you. It's nice to read about a happy relationship. I had a little trouble reading this though, since you used "her" and "she" to refer to two women.