sex with a 2nd woman-threesome

[lovingardeners]

My partner has fantasies of wanting to have another woman in our bed but as you would understand is also nervous in case the other woman would some how be better
or take me

i have reassured her i am in no way interested in wanting another woman
mine is the best in bed and loves sex
she is also the best friend i have
i couldnt find a better more loving woman so why would i leave

anyway
she has even said on occasions she has a girlfriend or two she would be tempted to try with
but also dosent want to spoil friendships
all things i understand

i have said to her if she wants to have another woman
- she is bi
and / or watch me with one
its fine
she is safe cos its only a turn on if she wants it

i would love to share these things with her

but keep her

so ladies
any thoughts or suggsetions for how she can have her bi fantasies - she insists if we have another woman - even tho she is sub to me....we are still working on that stuff too - tho she does enjoy being tied and also spanking
she would be dom to any woman - as she feels she could never be sub to another woman - tho deep down i think she would love to try it - she is just insecure - and this is one area i wont go or push - unless eh wants it

so
any thoughts as to haw she can get her head to where she can be and enjoy what she wants?

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by lovingardeners

My partner has fantasies of wanting to have another woman in our bed but as you would understand is also nervous in case the other woman would some how be better
or take me

i have reassured her i am in no way interested in wanting another woman
mine is the best in bed and loves sex
she is also the best friend i have
i couldnt find a better more loving woman so why would i leave

anyway
she has even said on occasions she has a girlfriend or two she would be tempted to try with
but also dosent want to spoil friendships
all things i understand

i have said to her if she wants to have another woman
- she is bi
and / or watch me with one
its fine
she is safe cos its only a turn on if she wants it

i would love to share these things with her

but keep her

so ladies
any thoughts or suggsetions for how she can have her bi fantasies - she insists if we have another woman - even tho she is sub to me....we are still working on that stuff too - tho she does enjoy being tied and also spanking
she would be dom to any woman - as she feels she could never be sub to another woman - tho deep down i think she would love to try it - she is just insecure - and this is one area i wont go or push - unless eh wants it

so
any thoughts as to haw she can get her head to where she can be and enjoy what she wants?

Your both covering alot of area at the same time..As for her wanting another woman you test the waters by you not having intercourse with her.Of course the other woman and you both have to have guide lines.Trust,respect and having a very secure relationship is most important...You think deep down she would like to be sub to this woman?...What does she think or want?...Just because she is sub to you does not mean she wants another dom/me...One thing at a time I would say.Talking sure does help,so does finding the right lady to join you...Let her enjoy another lady first before you bring in the bdsm and she will find herself within time....Maybe try another couple first[foursome].This can see how you both feel when the same sex is involved.....Many people love bondage,spankings,role play,this has nothing to do with bdsm...Role play is a good way to test the waters...

[Ann Andriani]

Originally Posted by lovingardeners

...any thoughts as to haw she can get her head to where she can be and enjoy what she wants?

Lovingardeners, I encourage you and your partner to read through the different threads in this category of the forum:

http://www.allsexadvice.com/forum/forum11.html

There is so much information within that I think you'll both benefit from. I also strongly encourage the two of you to pick up a copy of The Threesome Handbook by Victoria Vantoch. It's a wonderful book that covers many of the topics of concern you've mentioned and how to handle them. It also discusses the idea of having a threesome with a friend and the in's and out's of that or how to find a new playmate. I think it will be the thing to help you and your partner decide if this is something that should be kept as a fantasy or made into a reality. I encourage you to both read it together and to each other so you can react to and discuss what you're reading.

A successful first time threesome is all about the communication before, during and after, the planning and the researching. As long you do all that together, you should be in good shape.

Ann