Sub For Sub?

[Luvoral]

While given an order by my h/b[master] to get him a drink,I went to the frig.Before I opened the door,Plum[sister sub I call her] said,"just tell me and I will do it for you"...This is one example...Another is she has said if I think she has done wrong she accepts the punishment,weather it be a harsh spanking or drag her down by her hair...We once bumped heads leaving a bump on my forehead.She quickly return with a ice bag and then handed me a belt.....There is no way i could ever give her orders or punishment...I think I would cry!! I want her to be my equal,sister sub as well a sub and wife to my/our husband.I don't want to be sub for her,so I can't understand why she would want to sub for me,her knowing my sub nature....Anyone been there?

[Budde]

I think the pecking order if you will should be set by your master. If he wishes it to be her at the bottom of the chain then so be it. Get used to it and follow orders, if on the other hand he wishes you two to be equals then your on the same level. Not being critical but just pointing out, by you merely voicing opposition or being some what resistant to her submissiveness you are therefore asserting dominance. Maybe you are more dominant then you truly realise.
Remember it's no longer up to you.

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by Budde

I think the pecking order if you will should be set by your master. If he wishes it to be her at the bottom of the chain then so be it. Get used to it and follow orders, if on the other hand he wishes you two to be equals then your on the same level. Not being critical but just pointing out, by you merely voicing opposition or being some what resistant to her submissiveness you are therefore asserting dominance. Maybe you are more dominant then you truly realise.
Remember it's no longer up to you.

Thanks Budde,I'm not sure if I put it right.If my h/b/master made her dom me I would accept that,though being equal subs to him is just great...Yes,you are right that it's up to him and I always follow orders...I think that she feels like she is not equal in our non-vanilla relationship,mostly because I am married to him...We have both insured her that she is now part of us,subs to him,his property as well as both of us wives of his[so to speak]...It might have something to do with her last relationship where she had severe physical punishment[almost abuse]..That's not involved in this relationship,nor could I ever hit anyone,pull someone's hair,degrade someone...It's just not in me.Serving,submitting,disapline,voyeurism is my nature..Bondage,spanking is more sexual...After all that i guess I'm trying to make her feel equal and more secure in our relationship....Thanks Again,Luv