Frustrated with him...

[curious69]

'Dan' and I have been together for about three months, and have a very good emotional/mental relationship. We get along very well, and communicate equally so. We also have a great friendship, which is also important, in my opinion. I am quite physically attracted to him, and he is to me as well... but it's lacking in the sexual department. There should be no problem, right? But there is. In previous posts, I entailed that he was a virgin. The first time we ever had sex, he was nervous, and couldn't get off. I blew it off as first time nervousness, and we just talked about it, so i think that helped. The second time, everything was fine, except he lasted for about a good forty-five minutes. After that long, I start getting sore, but I don't mind, as long as he's enjoying himself.
This past weekend, we got together, and everything seemed to be going fine. I went down on him, and TWENTY MINUTES later - no one has EVER lasted close to that long with me, ever - he still hasn't come. So i rested, then went back at it, but still nothing. He then told me what he liked - warm, and longer strokes, not so much tongue on the head - but I still couldn't get him to that point.
I can't even BEGIN to tell you how frustrating that was for me... I've been with six other people, and not one has lasted more nine minutes with head. I feel like I'm not fulfilling him, with that or with sex, honestly. We've talked about it, and he says I am, but I want to do more. I want to be more than just 'good', I want to be amazing.
So, my question is, what do you suggest I do to make it more 'mind-blowing'?
Please, any advice would be helpful. I can't describe how frustrated I am with this...

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by curious69

'Dan' and I have been together for about three months, and have a very good emotional/mental relationship. We get along very well, and communicate equally so. We also have a great friendship, which is also important, in my opinion. I am quite physically attracted to him, and he is to me as well... but it's lacking in the sexual department. There should be no problem, right? But there is. In previous posts, I entailed that he was a virgin. The first time we ever had sex, he was nervous, and couldn't get off. I blew it off as first time nervousness, and we just talked about it, so i think that helped. The second time, everything was fine, except he lasted for about a good forty-five minutes. After that long, I start getting sore, but I don't mind, as long as he's enjoying himself.
This past weekend, we got together, and everything seemed to be going fine. I went down on him, and TWENTY MINUTES later - no one has EVER lasted close to that long with me, ever - he still hasn't come. So i rested, then went back at it, but still nothing. He then told me what he liked - warm, and longer strokes, not so much tongue on the head - but I still couldn't get him to that point.
I can't even BEGIN to tell you how frustrating that was for me... I've been with six other people, and not one has lasted more nine minutes with head. I feel like I'm not fulfilling him, with that or with sex, honestly. We've talked about it, and he says I am, but I want to do more. I want to be more than just 'good', I want to be amazing.
So, my question is, what do you suggest I do to make it more 'mind-blowing'?
Please, any advice would be helpful. I can't describe how frustrated I am with this...

What position are you in?Can he watch as you are sucking on him?..I know one thing that men love to watch as you suck them...When your talking about longer strokes are you using your hand or your mouth?...Sometimes I never use my hands,while kneeling between his legs I look to see if he is watching,then I'll take him all in my mouth and then withdraw letting his cock spring up and slap on his belly.Without using my hands I take him in my mouth and bring his cock as far away from his belly,bending it down between his legs,then use my finger nails to tease his butt cheeks,anus and underneath his balls while I put some mean sucking on him letting my hair brushing his belly as I turn my head back and forth,moaning like I was enjoying my favorite desert[which it is]...When I know he is close I probe his bum taking him down my throat.He blasts like a cannon....If he doesn't cum from this I use his hardness for my own pleasure...No reason to get frustrated,go to the 69 position and let him pleasure you while you experiment on his love stick....

[Winterwhite]

Luvoral, that sounds like an awesome blowjob You're right that 'seeing' is half the pleasure - Outside the world of 'sexually-enlightened' people, a blowjob is so 'taboo' vis-a-vis men and the unacceptable 'subordination' of women in this regard, that knowing that getting head is not only OK, but that she's loving it is really, really important.

[curious69]

Luvoral:
Normally, I do it bending over him from his right. Good idea though, I'll get between his legs next time, that might work better. I usually use both hands and mouth. Last guy I was with needed hand also to get off, but this one might not.
But thank you, all this sounds great.
I'm not sure about the ass thing though, I've dated guys who've loved it, but I'm not sure about this one... I don't want to spring that on him and freak him out lol

[Luvoral]

Originally Posted by curious69

Luvoral:
Normally, I do it bending over him from his right. Good idea though, I'll get between his legs next time, that might work better. I usually use both hands and mouth. Last guy I was with needed hand also to get off, but this one might not.
But thank you, all this sounds great.
I'm not sure about the ass thing though, I've dated guys who've loved it, but I'm not sure about this one... I don't want to spring that on him and freak him out lol

Your Welcome;Some other thought is let him use his hands,so you can see how he likes to be stroked.Also if you can deepthroat,just lay back on the bed with your head hanging over and let him do the pumping or get on your knees while he is standing[some men like the thought of women being on their knees for them]...My h/b likes to grab my hair and control how much he sticks in my mouth[of course I can take him all]...About the probing,just do the teasing up and down his crack,maybe starting with a massage so he is more relaxed......