Masturbating in front of someone

[pearl81]

My boyfriend think it would be hot to watch me get off. The thing is, I use a vibrator, and it takes me a LOT of fantasy to cum. I spend about 20 just concentrating on some scenario, and if I lose my focus, I'm back at square one.
I don't think I could cum in front of him, even if I wanted to. It would be so distracting to have him there, because I'd be thinking about what he's thinking and about how I look, etc. I'm too self-conscious. When I masturbate, I don't make any sounds or move much anyway, and I think it would be less exciting than he seems to think.
It's always been hard for me to cum at all. I never did until age 21 when I bought my first vibe. I've only even had an orgasm during sex if I use the vibe at the same time, and I've never once orgasmed from oral. I don't know what's up with this, but it is what it is.
I want him to see me cum (it hasn't happened during sex yet with us, even with the vibe), but I'd have to fake it if he wants to watch me masturbate...
What do you think? Any advice??

[Luvoral]

Have you tried mutual masturbating? Maybe if you are watching him while you are doing it you can keep your fantacy to waiting for what will happen next or enjoying seeing him ejaculate.Having been thru that same experience,I was also distracted do to his erection...So I moved under him and gave him oral while I masturbated and it made me have an orgasm...

If it doesn't work then find something else that turns both of you on...When you do have an orgasm with him,let him know your cumming.Sometimes talk can be very erotic...

[LostSerenity]

I'd have to agree with luvoral. It's a major turn-on for me to watch my bf pleasure himself. And it's even hotter when I join in, touching myself as well. If your boyfriend is open to it, I think you guys should give it a try. Maybe all you need is a little visual stimulation.

[Budde]

I have been requested by more then one girlfriend to masturbate in front of her to which I gladly obliged every time. I had one girlfriend who had a rather strange request or at least I thought so at the time. She had me hide in her closet which had louvered doors and watch her as she got herself off. This happened many times and at first I thought it was a tad strange but the more we did it the more I liked it and we became inventive and played with it. On several occasion I would work myself up to rock hard status and as soon as she was either in the middle of cumming or just reaching orgasm I would reveal myself and take her some times semi forcefully. She told me her reasons for me hiding were several one of which was that like you she felt that if I was just there watching her she would be too self conscious and not be able to do anything let alone cum, the other was the pure adrenalin rush of me taking her by surprise.
My wife and I have enjoyed mutual masturbation as well as watching each other more times then I could count. About a year a go we had a very interesting experience to say the least as far as masturbation goes. We enjoy a BDSM lifestyle to some degree. It's not 24/7 365 but for the most part I would say about 90% of the time we adhere to our own set of BDSM rules. I am most often the Dom but on occasion she likes the Dom role so we switch. No set thing it's just a mutual understanding and we usually run with it. I was just getting out of the shower one morning after coming back from a run and I heard her calling for me to come out in to the living room. So I grabbed a towel and wrapped it around my waist and I went down the hall to the living room where as soon as I entered the room she surprised me by hiding on the other side of the door as soon as I passed she reached out and grabbed the towel and pulled it off me. So I'm now standing there bare ass naked nothing odd about that but I heard a laugh and I saw her best friend sitting on the couch. I was shocked to say the least and some what embarrassed. Now she practically lives at our house and we've all been in the hot tub together etc. but nothing sexual has ever happened. Well I reached out to my wife for my towel and she said OH no your not getting this back until I say so now get in the middle of the room. This is some thing I have done to her on many occasion, make her stand fully nude in the middle of the room some times on a step stool and some times blind folded. and some times order her to do things to herself but never in front of anyone else. So now this was payback time. She told me after a few minutes of turning around to show my ass to her friend to start jerking myself off. I was like WTF in my mind but didn't say anything. She order me to do it nice and slow so they could enjoy the show. She even came over to me and stroked me and sucked me a little which totally turned me on to know her friend was watching us. She asked me very seductively if I wanted her to come help me out and I murmured sure why not, she slapped my ass and said that ain't gonna happen, Well I lost track of time and after quite a long time of self pleasuring and a lot of teasing by both of them I was allowed to cum. I have to say it was a very intense orgasm accompanied by cheers and whistles from my wife and her best friend. I almost collapsed I was so weak in the knees. I sat down and the tree of us chatted for a while me butt naked and my wife told me she and her friend were having a conversation about guys masturbating while they were having coffee in the kitchen while I was in the shower and it was basically just a spontaneous idea my wife had. Yeah well not your average morning that's for sure.

[Luvoral]

Not your average morning but better than reading the paper! It would sure give me a good start,though I would have my coffee cup there waiting for some cream...You two could open up a coffee shop

[Budde]

Originally Posted by Luvoral

Not your average morning but better than reading the paper! It would sure give me a good start,though I would have my coffee cup there waiting for some cream...You two could open up a coffee shop

Some how I don't think me standing there in the widow with my Johnson in my hand would be good for business or serving coffee in the buff could prove hazardous...........

[SxyStar]

I have a common problem. It is a turn on for me, but I have asked my b/f to masturbate in front of me and he won't do it. I wish I could get him to do it. I am a little self-consicious of doing it myself in front of him. But the reason why the converstation came up was. I have an erotic book, that have just have stories, and I caught him one day masturbating in the bathroom with my book. He kind of freaked out, just b/c I caught him. His family never talked about sex at all, so it kind of freaked out that I caught him. I told him that is was a turn on and that I wish he would do it in front of me. I want to watch him be able to please himself. Because if I can watch him do it, then I know how I can be able to please him. I have wanted to be able to do it in front of him, but I am even a little curious about how he will react to it. I want him to even know how to be able to please me.

[oldkinky]

Originally Posted by LostSerenity

I'd have to agree with luvoral. It's a major turn-on for me to watch my bf pleasure himself. And it's even hotter when I join in, touching myself as well. If your boyfriend is open to it, I think you guys should give it a try. Maybe all you need is a little visual stimulation.

My wife and I always begin sex with mutual masturbation-not necessarily to orgasm while we watch a group sex DVD together. She uses her fingers or a realistic dildo. I love to watch the dildo go in and out of her pussy. She loves for me to cum on her boobs. We have been doing this for years.

[Luvoral]

That's why i mentioned mutual masturbation. He can observe how and where you like to be touched and the same for him. My H/B showed me how he like his cock stroked by doing in front of me and i did the same for him.

There's nothing to be embarrassed about. Make sex fun and find each other's trigger point. At fifty I'm still enjoying him masturbating in front of me and still love watching him squirt all over me. I just recently got my first facial and loved it!

[SxyStar]

Does anyone have any advice? I'm scared of masturbating in front of my man. I want him to know what feels good to me, but I am scared of what he will think of me. B/c one night he was asleep and I was in the mood. I started watching Lesbian porn and when I told him about it. He seemed offended, b/c watching two girls get off, got me off more then watching a man and a woman. What can I do? I want to be honest with him. He already knows that I am bi-sexual.