Why does this bother me??

[fwbs]

I've been in a relationship for close to 4yrs now, sex life for the most part is great, when we do have it, I however, want it all the time, he, it seems can go forever without it, he masturbates mostly EVERY morning before wk, either alone or uses computer porn. He will even sometimes jerk off again if I blow him in the morning before I leave.
I'm ALWAYS up for sex after dinner closer to bed time, he is sometimes "too tired" or tells me he jerked off in the am and is spent.... THIS pisses me off to no end. We've even gotten into altercations about it, and I've even mentioned that maybe if he would stop jerking off in the morning, he could save his cock for me at night... this doesnt always seem to happen.
I do not care that he's jerking off, (i'd rather he didn't jerk off to hot computer porn chicks, but what can you do, a guy is a guy)I masturbate all the time, to computer porn, especially when I know I probably won't be getting any cock that night, ( you sort of know how the schedules of the day pan out when your in routines with someone) but it really pisses me off when I know he's jerked off and make the move and he shoots me down... or worse, he tries and gets limp dick and can't keep it up for me...
WTF????? am I wrong for feeling resentful??? or pissed off.
Heres the fucked up thing, sometimes I'll look at the porn he's viewed and masturbate to it, so I can cum to what he did earlier in the am... its like i get off knowing he's jerked off...

Bottom line is, why can't he fuck me with his cock everyday, the way he jerks off every morning????
any thoughts????

[Luvoral]

As to you masturbating to the same porn I think it's because your frustrated and want to get back at him,also horny by watching it.

I wouldn't understand if my h/b jacked off and left me hanging or dripping.When we were younger and our relationship was fairly new I saw him jacking off in the shower.I asked him about it and he said he didn't want to wake me.The next day I heard him getting up so I tossed off the covers and stuck my ass out in a rather seductive way,making some moans while playing with myself.

He quickly got back in bed,hard as a rock and fucked me. I joined him in the shower and sucked his cock,but he didn't cum again.When he came home that evening he stripped me naked and fucked me right in the kitchen,saying how horny he was all day.I finished him off with a blow job.The next morning he fucked me before he went to the shower and when he came home that evening I was waiting there naked and i stripped him naked and fucked him.

I knew he watched porn,but after about a month,having sex about fifty times and sucking his cock almost everyday he has hardly ever watched it again. I told him he doesn't have to jerk off,nor have to wake me for sex.My pussy,mouth,hands and ass are at his disposal any time. We also have mutual masturbation and he has jacked off on my ass while I played with myself in the morning.He knows I'll suck his cock anytime.

If you offer him all that you have like you said,as you seem very sexual like me,then put a stop to it now,no excusses. I know this sounds cheap but i told my h/b that he has a slut at his finger tips and if wanted to watch porn,watch it while he fucked me or while I sucked his cock.I bet him he would prefer watching that cock go in and out of my mouth then watch those other sluts...Not that i think there sluts...

[igor]

Masturbation is fine as long as it doesn't interfere with one's normal sex life. If he won't cut back on the masturbation so he can have sex with you then he has a problem and you have a right to be pissed off at him.

[fwbs]

i agree with the reason why I probably masturbate to what he's jerked off to, but trust me, there isnt a thing I wouldnt do, at his disposal at anytime, he knows this.

if he fucked me more, i could see why he might want to jerk off to porn in the morning, he might get bored fucking me all the time, when i know he is always waking up with a hard on. Unfortunately, I wake up earlier and he's dead asleep.

but the simple fact that he could get fucked or sucked off at anytime, does piss me off that here he is jerking off to porn when im not there, i initiate sex, or don't initate sex and I either get told he's tired, or nothing happens at all.

don't get me wrong, we do have sex, not as much as I like, maybe once or twice a week if I'm lucky, but I know for a fact if he didnt jerk off in the am, we'd be having sex a LOT more.

like the other day, i purposely woke up early, before work and blew him, hoping he wouldnt jerk off that day... but I was wrong, he did, so it doesnt matter when, he gets it at his disposal,

i just wish i could get fucked at my disposal, it gets boring sometimes, masturbating so much,

i know if I was getting fucked more often, I would be masturbating much less!

i still feel lost here...

[Luvoral]

I hate to tell you,but most men are complaining that their woman don't give them enough.In your case it's just the opposite and what makes it worse is because he enjoys sex by his lonesome. That's a problem and can understand your problem/anger.

Your a man's dream and maybe your wasting your time on him when you could be appreciated by someone who knows he has found the sexual creature of his life. He won't find many women that will wake up early just to give him a blow job.

It's time to put a lock on things,either on the door or one on your kitty. Like you said,your always at his disposal,but he prefers his own personal stroke.Tell him to go stroke it somewhere else. I like to masturbate,but if I had to do it because he's already spent because he is only interested in sex during porn,then I'm gone.

I would say he's got a real problem and you can't be dragged down with him if he doesn't want to solve this. My h/b told me he had a sexual addiction [I was shocked],and then he said it was my kitty. An addiction which we both love,like my addiction to his cock and my creamy reward. Remind him he's in a relationship and he's not fulfilling his part and it's causing you pain.

Tell him to seek help or hit the bricks. Life's too short honey...

[bamachick]

in the morning when you are giving him head do it for a while and tell him you want it in your pussy, I know my hubby is always up for a quicky in the morning.

[eileengalvin]

I know exactly how you feel! I was with a guy for 3 years and that was the main reason we split!!

You are definitly not wrong for feeling how you do and i agree with everyone else here, he either needs to change or get the boot! I believe that sex is a HUGE part of a relationship and if he prefers to please himself rather than be pleased by you then something is very wrong! Especially as you have spoken to him about it and tried to make him more interested in sex.

Saying that though, it is easy to focus on only this and forget that there is a lot more to a relationship than sex.

Maybe you its an idea to sit him down and try one last time to make him realise how strongly you feel, and if hes still not willing to budge then maybe come to a compramise. It all depends on how you feel about your relationship as a whole.

[Jax315]

look im a guy and im telling you to dump his fucking ass. i would jump even at the thougt of having someone who wanted sex as much as you. then again i cannot stand masterbating. either way, there is a major problem with this guy if he prefers his hands over any part of you that could get him to cum then he either needs SERIOUS help or tell he to get the fuck out (no offence if you really love the guy but still) come on, i dont know you but you deserve more sex than what your getting. if he doesnt want you then there are plenty of us guys out in the world that would fuck you more than you would ever NEED to be fucked. any other guy would be happy to be with you. so thats my advice, dump his sorry fucking ass