This is very embarrassing. Help!.

[CoJon]

madstyle,

I don't know if this will hep, but perhaps it will at least make you feel a little better about your "inconvenient" amount of ejaculate production. Let me preface this by saying that I believe every guy--hell, every person--has his (or her) problems, no matter how "perfect" (s)he seems to the outsider, i.e., everyone else...especially those who aren't close enough to the person to know all his or her faults. An old friend of mine once said, "If you think a person is normal, then you just haven't gotten to know them well enough yet." I think the saying also works if you replace the word "normal" with the word "perfect".

Having said that, I'd like to add, frankly, I'm a little jealous of you! I'm fascinated by the amount of fluid some people--men or women (& a few inbetween!)--can produce during ejaculation. I've seen women who produce a literal spray of clear fluid when they reach orgasm (in videos, not in person). And I'm fascinated by the trajectory and amount of semen some men can produce when they ejaculate. I've learned a trick to ejaculate farther (by squeezing the opening of the penis tight upon orgasm), but I don't think there's anything I can do should I wish to increase the amount of ejaculate fluid I produce. I'm also about two inches shy of six feet tall, and (since I'm already well past puberty) there's nothing I can do about that, either. But I'm physically fit--I think "lean" is the most apt term for me--and each of my orgasms seems to last about a minute.

Do you see my point? Other people may have qualities that you envy, but you should never discount your own, no matter how embarrassing or inconvenient they may, at times, seem. Because I guarantee you there are others who are, at this very moment, wishing they possessed certain of those very qualities you may be taking for granted. As you've written here yourself, one of your fantasies involves coming on the woman as she brings you to orgasm (with her hand, I believe you indicated). And as some female AllSex members have already responded, women are flattered when the man they've helped bring to orgasm ejaculates a lot.

I know that doesn't solve your practical problem, but I hope it helps your ego, at least. Keep focused on the positive. It sounds like you've already begun to make some changes you feel good about. Not only can the qualities we sometimes consider "faults" turn out to be advantageous under certain circumstances, but it's better to divert your attention from those things you can't change to those you can. Furthermore, if what you're doing makes you feel good about yourself, that's usually a good indicator that what you're doing is good for you.

I hope all this makes sense! And I hope you find satisfaction and happiness in yourself and your relationships.

CoJ.