Sometimes the wrong choice is the best choice.

[Newby]

Dude you are 23, still young in reality. Don't worry about your virgin status. Perhaps its the fact you thinking about it all the time is affecting the way you see and treat women.

[TheBoy]

One thing that would definately help is by stopping the "I'm a virgin, BOO HOO!" act. It simply needs to stop, right now.

Nothing is more powerful than positive thought. Going into a relationship with negative feelings, in this case, the anger of you being a virgin, will not do any good.

Next, having sex will not help you learn more about relationships with women. If you can't successfuly have a loving relationship with someone, you arn't mentally fit for sex.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, I don't mean it that way. I'm only hoping for the best outcome.

PS. What types of women are you meeting/talking to? If they keep avoiding you, unfortunately I don't think you are with the right people. There is someone for everyone, mark my words. I think in this case you may be looking in the wrong direction slightly.

Peace.

[madstyle]

Originally Posted by TheBoy

One thing that would definately help is by stopping the "I'm a virgin, BOO HOO!" act. It simply needs to stop, right now.

Nothing is more powerful than positive thought. Going into a relationship with negative feelings, in this case, the anger of you being a virgin, will not do any good.

Next, having sex will not help you learn more about relationships with women. If you can't successfuly have a loving relationship with someone, you arn't mentally fit for sex.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, I don't mean it that way. I'm only hoping for the best outcome.

PS. What types of women are you meeting/talking to? If they keep avoiding you, unfortunately I don't think you are with the right people. There is someone for everyone, mark my words. I think in this case you may be looking in the wrong direction slightly.

Peace.

Even the most negative people who aren't mentally fit still have a girlfriend have sex.

I honestly go for the girls who have a goodhead on their shoulders its not like i'm out at a club trying to pick up girls. If we are on equal footing and we are compatable then I will try and ask them out but now that doesn't even seem to work dispite I'm probably the best match for them as they are for me.

I have been doing research on local brothels and they just don't look like a safe place at all. So I figure the next girl who comes along and wants to fuck me I will go forward with the act even if I do not like it and just get my virginity over and done with.

[Baconbit]

i just wrote for an hour and a half telling you about how im in the same situation telling u my opinion, and mabey giving u advice and everything only to have it erased for some fucking goddam reason. im so pissed off right now i cant right it again atleast not today, sry. anyways the jist of what i said was dont do it that way. ill explain later but im so angry right now about this.

[blondiebi]

Just because you are a virgin does not mean you have a diease. I wish that I was a virgin, honestly I do. Being brought up with strict Christian values, I do wish I would have waited until I was married.

If I would have met a male virgin before I lost my virginity I probably would have been more influenced to have waited. You shouldn't feel so down about being a virgin, you should be proud.

As for the girlfriend part of it.. Just try making friends with a girl.. flirting will win you over.. say cute things to her.. idk dating is never easy!

[Ann Andriani]

Getting out the friend zone with women can be done, but it takes some work. Working on yourself, being confident in who you are and what your life is about. Appearing interesting, fun and valuable to others. Having a life that others want to be a part of. We've had many guys like you, Madstyle, on this board and until you change your interaction with women to include a sexual element, not actual sex but a sexual element, they will put you in the friend zone. You have to let them know you're interested and it's all in the language you use verbal and body when you talk to them. There's so much to it and it's way too much to explain here. So I'm going to direct you to some resources. They are not "pick up" sites. Yes, they teach you certain skills, but they are bettering yourself sites for men. Larry and I have both read what these guys have to offer and the information is solid.

http://www.charismaarts.com/

http://www.stylelife.com/

Give these resources a shot, even a small adjustment in your behavior can make positive changes.

Ann

[Buraian]

I lost my Virginity when i was 15, too an old ex gf i never really liked or fancied anymore. I was drunk, she was drunk and it was a complete mistake. Im now 18 and regret it completly, ive met an amazing girl from Indonesia over the internet who is 17, we are planning too meet and make our relationship work. The best advice i can give you is don't have sex for the sake of it, i wish i was a virgin again, like this girli have met, so she could be my first, and return the favour too her. I absolutley hate that im not a virgin for her, she really is special too me and i care for her so much, just regret it completly, and no doubt you will too if it has no meaning behind it.

[madstyle]

Well guys I have completely lost faith on believing that there is someone out there for me so I will not be seeking a relationship.

I will be doing the exact opposite, I will be looking for a FWB relationship to make up for lost time. I don't want to but I feel thats the only way that I will ever be successful with a woman.

I have had no success with women and dating it has been one failure after another which always have lead me to disapointment.

I'm not getting any younger either and with me turning 24 in june I need to change something. When I have exhausted all of my options I have decided the best thing for me to do is just go out there and get it done and over with.

I'm currently looking for someone to just hookup with regardless of what relationship status they might be.

[johnnyonthespot]

I don't think that's the way to deal with your situation at all. Your virginity is not the problem.

Ann Adriani gave the best advice... go back and look at that post again. If you're interested in a girl, let that be known from the very beginning. Not by saying it, but by flirting with her. Run your hand across her back, wink at her, invite her out to dinner, do something exciting together, things like that. Most importantly, appear confident. It doesn't require you to be a drunken a-hole.

If you get shot down, no worries... you aimed for something more, but ended up in the friend zone. That's better than just standing there in the friend zone from the beginning and waiting for HER to make a move, or surprising her after a few weeks or months when YOU make a move. And don't put too much pressure on yourself.

[LovingIt]

A friend of mine lost her virginity to a male friend of hers just to get it done with. Let me tell you she regrets that decision and wishes it was with someone she loved and had a real connection with.

This is only a one person reaction, but I can see why she would regret it. It is something to be shared (in my opinion) with someone special - not just virginity but sex in general.