too tight!

[shyness]

Hi.. ok, so if you havent read before, im 22, female, virgin. I can happily masturbate, but usually externally. I find that I can only insert my middle finger, as it is hurts/im resistant to any more, even if I'm well lubricated. Im sure there is enough room inside for more though!!! I dont own a vibe.. I've always been a bit self conscious of getting one. Larger tampons have never been an issue. So, I'm wondering what I can do?? Is it just a matter of stretching gradually, or is something going to tear? What can I improvise with that might be insertion-friendly? (im worried about the likes of handles of things with uneven surfaces even if soft - should i be?)

Thanks for your advice

[anaesthetic]

Something -may- tear. That something could be your hymen if it's still in tact. However, you could be mentally blocking the idea of penetration and that is causing your pain. You may also be going at it via wrong angle. Try switching up positions (standing, squatting, doggy) to see if any of those help. If you want to use something like a brush handle, slip a condom over it.