Intercourse Hurts!

[theggman]

My boyfriend and I tried again to have sex recently (we still have not been able to do it!) and for the first time it was going in easily! The problem before with us not having sex was that he could not get hard. He's not nervous and does not have ED he just very rarely gets fully erect when we're in a situation where we can have sex.

Anyway, this time it was going in and we would have had it if not for me. It hurt me so much I started yelling and I told him to just POW! it in and ignore me because we've been wanting this so much, but he wouldn't do it so I wouldn't get hurt.

Fingering is not my cup of tea (I feel nothing but uncomfortable when me or him does it), so is there any other way to lessen the pain of first time intercourse? I've been attempting to stretch myself out by putting 1-2 fingers in and moving them in a circular motion (No pleasure from this at all!)

Thank you and sorry for the long post!

[Virgo]

Are you wet enough when you begin penetration? I don't think 'stretching yourself' will help much as it's probably your hymen breaking which is painful, or else that you are too dry.

You need to relax as much as you can, and feel sexy; don't just whack it in for the sake of having sex. How much foreplay are you guys doing? Does he stimulate your clitoris? 'Fingering' is not a typical way for a girl to achieve orgasm, and can feel a bit numb without any clitoral stimulation beforehand.

Relaxing and lots of lubrication is very important in this situation. You both need to be very comfortable about having sex with each other, rather than telling him to ignore you if you're in pain etc.