My boyfriend is terrified getting me pregnant even though I'm on the shot

[SexyGirl69]

Hi everyone. I don't know what to do. Ever since this incident happened back when my boyfriend and I first got together, he has been terrified of getting me pregnant. I am on the Depo-Provera shot and he knows this but he is still quite scared to have vaginal sex with me. This isn't too much of a problem since foreplay satisfies me just as much if not more than vaginal sex for the most part but I love the intimacy of vaginal sex. He is only scared like this after we have vaginal sex. Any other time, he'll be nervous maybe but nothing like when we have vaginal sex.

He knows how effective the Depo-Provera shot is but he still worries me. I have promised him that I would get an abortion if I ever got pregnant but he is still quite scared.

Just today I asked him if it would make him feel better if I got the morning after pill to keep with me just in case we needed it and he said that would make him feel better. I also asked him if it would make him feel better if we used a spermicide every single time so that we have that additional protection and he said that would also make him feel better.

He has been getting better with his fear but he still gets quite afraid. He does trust me but he is just afraid that we'll be one of those very small statistics to which pregnancy does happen.

We don't use condoms though because he can't feel anything with one on and he says that they don't feel natural to him. So I am wondering if lambskin condoms would feel more natural to him?

What can I do to help him get over this fear? Neither of us want children.

[nai]

It's great that he's being responsible. Maybe you could do a google and find some trusty statistics that would settle his mind. You've already said that you'd get an abortion if you got pregnant. That's kinda taking it to a new level, so I'd seriously advise you guys to find some suitable protection for him.

[flippityflop]

You might consider getting an IUD. They are very reliable and inexpensive if you go to planned parenthood. It would be an especially good idea if you don't want to have children for a while, as they can last up to 12 years. The morning after pill would help ease his mind, but he can't expect you to take that every time you have sex. You could also try charting your menstruation cycle to see when you are ovulating. Try googling that...I don't know much about it, but I know there are some good sites out there about it.

Also...Where is this fear coming from? I'm sure most guys have that worry in them somewhere, but not to the point of refraining from sex. Did someone close to him have a bad experience with impregnating a girl maybe? Try talking to him and see if you can't figure out the origin of his fear... Sometimes just knowing a "why" behind a fear can help a lot.

Good luck!