Absolutely no reaction to masturbating

[lexxus]

Is that normal? I've tried it in the shower, laying in a bath and in bed and it just does absolutely nothing for me. I'm a virgin and I'm really afraid that it will be hard for me to orgasm at all no matter what I try.

[Virgo]

Hi, I'm going to assume you're a girl?
It is difficult for some women to have orgasms, simply because masturbating isn't something a lot of girls get told about, or encouraged to explore.
How do you feel when you masturbate? You should be relaxed and feeling sexy and hopefully thinking sexy thoughts. If you don't have any fantasies as such then you could try reading some erotic literature online or a particularly sexy book.
Then just stay relaxed and explore your body. Just find out what works best for you. Touch yourself gently around your vagina and clit, figuring out which movements feel good.

Orgasm doesn't have to be your end goal, just do what feels nice and make you feel good. If you carry on like that you may well have an orgasm by accident anyway!

If all else fails you could consider some kind of small vibrator for clit stimulation, a lot of women sweare by them!

Most important thing is your mood though, stay relaxed, and feel sexy!

[lexxus]

Originally Posted by Virgo

Hi, I'm going to assume you're a girl?
It is difficult for some women to have orgasms, simply because masturbating isn't something a lot of girls get told about, or encouraged to explore.
How do you feel when you masturbate? You should be relaxed and feeling sexy and hopefully thinking sexy thoughts. If you don't have any fantasies as such then you could try reading some erotic literature online or a particularly sexy book.
Then just stay relaxed and explore your body. Just find out what works best for you. Touch yourself gently around your vagina and clit, figuring out which movements feel good.

Orgasm doesn't have to be your end goal, just do what feels nice and make you feel good. If you carry on like that you may well have an orgasm by accident anyway!

If all else fails you could consider some kind of small vibrator for clit stimulation, a lot of women sweare by them!

Most important thing is your mood though, stay relaxed, and feel sexy!

Yep I'm a girl. One question about the vibrator though. As I said, I'm a virgin so I'm worried that I could get used to the vibrator and be disappointed when I actually have sex. I've heard that some women can't even get off without a vibrator. And I don't want all the pleasure of losing my virginity to be gone because I've already experienced something similar. Do you think I should try one out anyway?

[Virgo]

Using a vibrator isn't at all the same as having sex. Many women can't orgasm from penetrative sex anyway, because it doesn't always provide the right stimulation to your clit or G-spot.
I don't see how you would get used to a vibrator and prefer it over sex. Even without an orgasm, if the man you are with knows what he is doing then sex will be pleasureable anyway.

I think you should try a bit more using just your hands or fingers on your clit, and if nothing works just try out a small clit vibe