I am with Cherry here. I stay from alcohol because my mother kind of ruined it for me. I will have a drink here and there, but do not like getting drunk. AA can help her if she wants it to. The only one that can really help her is herself. You can be there to help her emotionally. My mother drank when I was a child. She still drinks. She doesn't drink as much, she has a bit more control . She just drinks when she remembers. If she remembers sad things that she needs to forget again, she will drink. If she gets angry she will drink, because she doesn't know how to show emotion when sober. She is doing better day by day, but all I can do is offer her support. I do get angry when she drinks, but I don't let her know it. It wouldn't do any good, it would make her feel guilty. She was in AA, but I think that it was step 4 or 5, that is the hardest and she couldn't do it. That is where support comes in. It was hard for me too, because I didn't want her to fail. There is a group for friends and family of alcoholics, I believe that it is called Alanon. I just hope that you are not expecting miricles. And if one happens, be thankful. After a person gets into a habit of drinking, it is hard to change. I want you both to be strong.
Hugs to the two of you.
05-12-2005, 02:29 PM
