- Trouble -  (Naughty Home Movies)

Sex Advice Archive Page 6

Name:NiceGuy  Date:  July 2002

Our video camera and tripod are the favortie sex toys of my girlfriend and I.  I fully recommend shooting your own raunchy videos with your partner.  Whether you want role playing and a story line is up to you.  Half the fun is acting for the camera, and displaying each of our arsenal of different positions.  The other half is watching it together--I doubt there is anything that could better enhance the mood.  
Please let me know if anyone has tried this too and has any suggestions. 

- My Advice -

I applaud you and your lover.  There are so many couples out there that are camera shy and are afraid to watch themselves on TV.  I am one of those.  I can do the mirror thing, but I can't have any evidence.  I just wanted to say that I think that's great.

I also want to get on the record as saying to make sure you are in a very loving and committing relationship before you do that.  I wouldn't suggest it early on in a relationship because you really don't know what's going to happen to that tape should the relationship go sour.  You also won't know how many copies are out there.  
I'm not saying don't do it, I'm just saying be careful who you do it with.

Ann Andriani

- Trouble -  (Female Stimulation with Strap-On)

Name:  Servbro  Date:  February 2002

My wife and I are interested in her using a strap-on.  However, I would like a strap-on that stimulates her physically as well as emotionally.  Since we're both new at this, I'm seeking advice on what product to purchase where the potential for both of us to orgasm exists.  We (okay I) don't desire a large strap-on.  A small/modest size will do.  Can anyone help?  Thanks.

- My Advice -

I would like to direct you to my article on Shopping for a Strap-On. It could really shed some light for you and your wife and help you select the strap on that's right for your needs. My favorite harness, that you'll see in the article, is the Thriller G. You need to buy the dildo separately, but that's great because you can pick out the dildo that you want and switch dildos whenever you want. The harness is adjustable, allowing it to fit most body types.  Since you want her to be stimulated as well, you may also want to try a harness that has a vibrator on it...that is explained further in the article as well.

Enjoy!
Ann Andriani

- Trouble - (Sharing Strap-On Fantasy)

Name:Davey DDate:October 2001

How can I approach my wife about her using a strap-on device on me? I believe that she would probably find it to be a homosexual tendency and freak out but I really have a strong fantasy of this act. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

- My Advice -

The concern you have is more popular among men then you realize. Many men have the desire to be penetrated, but do fear that their partner, friends and/or associates will respond negatively to such a request. But there is nothing wrong with it. Having your partner penetrate you via fingers, toy, hand, tongue or penis is an act of incredible intimacy.

In your particular case, I don't know your wife so I really don't know how she'll respond to such a request. If you have very open communication about sex with your wife, it may be something that you can bring up and discuss with no problem. That is up to you to decide. What I can tell you is that whenever or however you do bring up the topic to your wife there are a few things to keep in mind:
 Be compassionate to your wife's possible confused feelings.
Try to put yourself in your wife's shoes, especially if this request is  coming out of nowhere.
Remember you want her to want to do this too, that's what will make it fun, so don't pressure her.
Wait until you are both relaxed and not involved in sexual activity when  you bring up this topic.
I have written an article that discusses how to introduce anal toys to your partner. Since using a strap-on does deal with anal penetration in your case, this article is very informative for your particular situation. If you'd like to read this article, please visit:

There is also a wonderfully informative book on using strap-ons and incorporating them into partner play called, "The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex" by Karlyn Lotney.

Ann Andriani

Name:  Big Papa Don  Date:December 2001

In a stable and mature relationship ( like a marriage) it shouldn't be too much what you say- but how you say it.. Don't be too blunt.. Maybe don't describe the fantasy yet.. until you know how she might feel about it.. but possibly bring up the idea of her stimulating you anally with a finger... or even a small toy.. the Strap on Ideal might be too much at 1st(if she has high boundaries-like a lot of girls do) because of its gay connotations (positioning and etcetera) but its not a homo sexual act if you ask me.. I'm a guy and am not into anal penetration.. but i tried it myself- It didn't do anything for me so I don't.. but any way you like to be touched.. any intimate possibilities this offers to you and your partner/partners.. Isn't bad as long as all partners want it.