My boyfriend and I have good sex. But I never really do anything. I want to be able to please him without having him do all the work. Do you have any advice about what I can do as a woman to make his work load easier and more enjoyable?
Meme1983
A. I know exactly what you're talking about. When I was first sexually active with my boyfriend and even now sometimes, I don't want him to feel like he's doing all the work and that I don't appreciate all the attention and pleasure that I'm receiving. If you tell him you like what he's doing, if you moan when it feels good and grab on to him, those are different ways of letting him know that you are enjoying yourself. Don't be afraid to talk dirty or express how you feel during sex. It makes it more fun and sometimes, and depending on what you say, more filthy.
Although, I do think that if he has given to you so much that you should probably give a little back. Manually and orally pleasuring him would be all the thanks he would need. Now it doesn't sound like you have a lot of experience in that area, but don't worry. It sounds like any effort you make will be totally appreciated. I have written an article on giving oral sex to a man, if you'd like to check it out.
There is also a book available that is so wonderful I wish I would have gotten it sooner called "How to Be a Great Lover" by female sexpert, Lou Paget. I bought this book for Chapter 6 alone and it was well worth it. Chapter 6 gives great sex tip for woman, in detail, with drawings and descriptions, how to give a good hand job. This is very important because most women are clueless. I know for years I was. There's 21 techniques on how to give your man an unbelievable orgasm from a hand job alone. There's also a very well written chapter on giving good oral sex with illustrations as well. Lou leaves no stone unturned when it comes to pleasuring a man. There's also lots of other great tips in there about having safe sex, different sexual positions to make sex even hotter and I believe she discusses dirty talk too. The book is only $20.00 and the information you have will last you a lifetime. If you'd like you could read my review of "How to Be a Great Lover" by Lou Paget at Allsexreviews.com.
As far as being entertaining to your boyfriend during sexual play, just be yourself. If you're enjoying yourself show it, tell him. If you want to moan really loud or tell him you think he's got a beautiful cock, go for it! How about stripping? Men are very visual creatures and nice, slow, seductive strip tease will definitely show him how much you appreciate the pleasure he'll be giving you. The more you show you're having fun, the more fun you'll both have.
When having intercourse, Doggie Style can also be a fun position. It gives your boyfriend a great view of your butt, something guys like to stare at. Don't just pound him though. Once he penetrates you, wiggle your butt a little, (think of a stripper now). This does two things. One, it looks really good to him and two, it also gives you more pleasure by feeling his penis rub against every inch of your vagina. Once you do it, you'll know what to do. Turn around and look at him and tell him how good it feels and how much you like to fuck him.
As far as being on top, have you ever rubbed your clit? As you're riding him, rub that clit till your hearts content. Rub and squeeze your breasts. Think of a porn movie. Tell him how good he feels. Once he penetrates you, gyrate against him. This gives great sensations to both of you. As you're riding him lightly, run your nails down his chest, squeeze his nipples, gently at first.
The best sex tip for woman that I can give is to have fun and don't be afraid to show it. Most people, even men are afraid to let that out because they'll make a fool of themselves, trust me you won't. You'll both make it more exciting for each other.
Ann Andriani
(December 2001)
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